Let's look at the root of the problem of betraying her husband.
Most often, her husband's betrayal is only the first voice of other family problems. As they say, problems do not arise from the air and there are always good reasons for their appearance. If you want to save your marriage, you need to understand the underlying causes of the betrayal of her husband.
Take yourself in hand to discuss with your husband his betrayal. Listen carefully to his arguments. There, in the explanations of "his sin", you can find the reasons that led him to change you. Ask yourself a question about what you can do in this situation. Here are the words of one woman, whom the husband changed with her friend:
"When our marriage was balancing on the verge of losing balance, my husband and I after talking about his betrayal, could still find the golden mean which gave rise to a new round of our relations, saturated with love and mutual understanding."
Do not forget all the good things that were associated with your husband before he betrayed you. As the statistics show, couples who survive adultery become much stronger. Therefore, no matter how hard you are, try not to forget about those bright moments of life with your husband, who reigned at the beginning of your relationship with him. These memories will help you cope with the family troubles that have arisen and defuse the situation. Also very important is the fact that you need to overcome yourself and discard your feelings and guilt and analyze the situation.
By the way, the experience of adultery, for all its negative coloring and consequences for both spouses, can benefit one of you. Perhaps, after a serious conversation, you will learn many interesting facts that you did not know about before. One thing is clear, your opinion about her husband will change in one direction or another. As they say, you put all the points above the "I".
Try to keep yourself in hand and not throw out your anger at her husband. This will only provoke a scandal and you will not achieve anything. Allow yourself to "cool down" and weigh everything. Sometimes it is even better to offer a husband for a while to disperse, so that the anger from betrayal will not grow even stronger.
During the clarification of relations, one should not go beyond the fact of treason and its causes. My advice to you, do not ask for details of treason - they can become a heavy cross that you will have to bear for many years.
Forgive or drive away? In fact, any woman will never be able to completely forgive her husband for treason. Treason is a scar on the heart of any woman, and time can only form a scar on it. However, if you still decide to forgive your husband for treason, then do not remember at every desire to tell him this. By such actions, you will bury your marriage for a couple of months of stubborn reproaches of your husband for betraying you.
After reconciliation with her husband, do not keep him on a short leash. If he wants to change again, then believe me, he will do it on a short leash too. For example, at least in the toilet of his office with a secretary.
Do you necessarily have a question: can you be better than she? This is a very important question: can you make love with a husband who preferred you to another. Be patient and do not try to prove to your husband that you are better than her. It will only morally wear you out. Let it prove to you that it is worthy of you.
And most importantly, do not forget that love also involves the fact of reconciliation and harmony with your loved one. Everyone has a second chance. Give it. Perhaps, your beloved, was really mistaken, and sincerely regrets about it. Love each other.