Men :
1. Most men do not experience much because of the divorce, because they so dreamed of becoming free again and to absolve themselves of responsibility for the family and children. In addition, they wanted to meet a better, younger woman who is not bored as quickly as a wife, and these men realize their fantasies and dreams precisely with her. They believe that family life interfered with the implementation of fantasies. Two years "at large" lead them to the idea that the family is still better, so during the first two years, these men again marry (some, true, on their former wives), but over the years they are beginning to understand that the first wife was better than the second, although they do not regret divorce.
2. What leads to divorce after a long joint life of another, smaller, category of men? They enjoy freedom, they change their partner, they do not marry for a long time, while they do not realize they lose the best years of their life, and by the age of 50 they suddenly feel a craving for family life in them, and the choice of partner is already small, and he himself has lost "commodity view". This category of men, if there is material wealth, finds a young wife for envy friends and ex-wife. But this "diamond of youth, beauty and freshness requires a good cut, that is, a lot of money, it's not up to a strong family, it would create a semblance of it for friends and acquaintances, plus the eternal fear of betrayal. And those men who do not have material prosperity are content with having turned up because they squandered sexual activity on casual partners who demanded emotional, physical, psychological and sexual costs (in comparison with their wives); hopes for a "free life" were not justified, and in a difficult life situation there was no support, for a man this is a disaster, so this man understands that the first marriage was better than the second.
3. There is a third category of men who divorce leads to severe depression, accompanying factors are alcoholism, a strong sense of loneliness, confusion, loss of interest in work and life in general. Responsibility for the old family, from which they refused, grew into responsibility for themselves, and not every man can cope with this. In this situation, a psychotherapist can not do without. Family life for this category of men again becomes that happy island where he would like to return, but often it's too late, so inexorable statistics determine the average age of men of 58 years (although the reasons for early death are, of course, many different, but one of them, of course, a divorce).
Women:
1. Divorce for the vast majority of women is a tragedy that is accompanied by deep depression. The thought of "why now live", "for whom now to live", very often lead a woman to a decision to stop this meaningless life, so many of them go to a hospital bed, this is at best, after which they understand that life goes on, we must raise children or start building a new family.
2. After the divorce, the woman will almost never be serene happy and calm, even if she has a second marriage, because there remains the fear of losing this husband, or fear for the relationship of the stepfather with her child from the first marriage. Unfortunately, the second marriage for a woman is not always better than the first, although there are exceptions.
3. Long family life, during which people are called "grown" to each other psychologically and biologically: they have common joys and common troubles, common friends and relatives, of course, children - suddenly bursting with a divorce. The depth of this wound is so great (especially for women), that even with the help of doctors of psychotherapists it is difficult to heal, and so "scars" will remain until the end of life in the soul of the person who did not want a divorce.