Relations in the family and their influence on upbringing

It's great when a young family is born. A new cell of society. And, of course, in the future, to realize a full-fledged family, children are planned. People live together, love each other, respect. Have children. An understanding between spouses, which serves as an incentive for mutual assistance in a difficult moment. Support in household problems. Plans for the future, repair of housing, purchase of furniture. It brings together. And it seems that this will always be so. You will be together, children will rejoice in their achievements and victories, and you will live long and happily until old age. Everything is great.

But in an instant everything can collapse. A loved one can betray, or everyday problems will obscure all that is beautiful between you. And then loneliness rushes. It will seem that you do not need anyone, everyone is hostile. How to deal with this feeling, which removes all people trying to help you. Running in a circle does not allow you to escape from this agony. The only thing this state leads to is a divorce.

It seems that this will be better for two. After all, so many grievances have accumulated over the past years. For some reason, at such a moment, only a bad insult is mentioned, or an offensive act. All this comes to the fore, instead of leaving offense, and on a cold head all carefully weighed. We rush to extremes, and do not think about how many people we hurt. Parents who worry about the unfulfilled personal life of their children. And most importantly, about their children, who are most affected by the divorce of their parents.

How many cases, the child after the divorce was withdrawn in itself. And the consequences were deplorable. Attempts to commit suicide, escape from home, addictive to bad habits (smoking, alcohol, drug addiction). Is divorce likely to lead to such consequences, you ask? What are the children's guidelines for making such a decision? The fact is that in the divorce of parents the child blames himself first. He begins to think and weigh his behavior. And necessarily comes to the conclusion that it is he who is to blame. Then thoughts creep in that parents do not like him anymore. The psychological stability, the adjusted life is broken, and it frightens. The child's psyche is not ready for such tests, and the child becomes like a hedgehog, trying not to let people in too close to experience it again. Ridiculous actions are just the whole method of protection. Such children are very difficult to bring to the conversation, to force to open up.

In life, there are many situations, and each needs a solution. But before you take it, think carefully about the kind of tortures you put on your relatives. Weigh all the pros and cons, perhaps you can find a way out in this situation without a divorce. An alternative is temporary residence. This will give time to make the right decision. Since the offense will be settled after the time has elapsed, pride will quiet down, and in a calm state, you must make the right decision.

To avoid this fate, very little is needed. Respect each other so that it does not happen. After all, no matter what the situation is at the moment, in the past you loved, lived together for a certain time. And at least out of respect for lived years do not descend to insults. You gave birth to children, which meant that you once considered yourself worthy of each other. Learn to listen and understand your soul mate. After all, the problem itself will not disappear unless it is discussed. Silence only exacerbates the conflict. Do not accumulate anger, it is better to tell at once about what does not suit you. And pride at this point needs to be hidden deeper. After all, not only your fate is decided, but the future of the child.