There are people who do not feed bread, only give a chance to discuss the life of others. Unfortunately, in almost every collective there is such a person. Most often it's a lady, although a gossip may be a man. But whatever gender this person is, a question always arises: what to do with it and how to protect yourself from constant discussions?
Minimize
In order to protect their secrets, it is better not to divulge them all. Of course, sometimes you want to share your joy or your problems, but if you know that there is a gossip in the team, it's better not to do it. Even when you communicate with one of your friends-colleagues, do not forget that your conversation can be heard or your colleague will just casually let it out. The gossip has one amazing feature, you can even say the ability: they know how to prove themselves, where they talk about something new and hear everything that their employees are discussing. People are surprised at how gossips are informed about everything. There is such an impression that they have all the eavesdropping devices around the office. Although in fact this is absolutely not the case. Simply, each person sets himself certain goals and goes to them. Gossips main goal is to get the most information, so that later it could be discussed with other people. Therefore, ladies of this kind of mind do everything to keep abreast of all the events taking place around them. From the gossip, it is practically impossible to hide something. She always finds out everything, and if she does not find out, she thinks out and gives it with such certainty that it will be difficult for people to doubt. Therefore, if you want to talk about your affairs, then discuss them only with those who do not exactly blabber and do it not in the office, but somewhere in the neutral territory where the ears of the gossip will not reach you.
Do not cover up your indignation.
Many people make a huge mistake - they do not tell the gossipers that they are unhappy with their behavior. The thing is that such women often do not even notice that they behave unacceptably. It is as natural for them to discuss others as they are to breathe. Therefore, spreading the next gossip, these ladies do not even think that they offend their behavior of others, spoil their personal lives and so on. Therefore, if your team is frankly unhappy with the behavior of the gossip, it is worth talking to her. And do it all together, so that the lady did not think, as if dissatisfaction with her behavior is the opinion of only one person. Therefore, if you decide to calm down the gossip, gather all the teams go to her to talk. Be prepared for the fact that the gossip does not understand what the problem is. She really does not see anything reprehensible in her actions. Therefore, you will have to explain to her for a long time and explain the essence of the problem. By the way, it is advisable not to go on screaming and mutual insults. Remember that you do not need to offend gossip, but explain the fact that her behavior is unacceptable. If you go to the cries and threats, it can happen that the lady will just get angry. And if the gossip girl gets angry at her employees, then everyone can suffer. This is a real information bomb. She has compromising evidence on everyone and if she wishes she can spoil relations with the rest of the people. Therefore, be careful and reasonable with such people. Do not try to eat it or pay back with the same coin. Just talk to her about the fact that everyone is uncomfortable when their personal lives are constantly discussed on the sidelines. Therefore, the staff are very much asking not to be interested in their relations, problems, and tactics so zealously. They themselves want to understand their situations, and if they need help, they will certainly turn to it. Of course, gossips are difficult to understand in principle, what is being discussed, but if a person who spreads rumors, is a good person and does not realize what exactly he is doing, then he will listen to the requests of others and at least try not to do so any more .
Boycott
Unfortunately, there are such gossips with which conversations do not yield any results. They just feel like behaving in a similar way to name their behavior, they are not going to. In this case, you can use the tool that we know from school - the boycott. Many may find it childish, but nevertheless, boycotts do act on gossips. The thing is that such people need constant communication. They need to tell someone something, otherwise they just start to wither. And if people who do not listen to it listen to it and talk to it, then this behavior for a woman of this type is a real blow. They simply have no interest in coming to work, because they are not needed there. Silence and total disregard for such a person will become for him an ideal punishment. Just always be prepared for the gossip to try to get you out to talk. We need to boycott the entire team and never pay attention to what they say. You will agree with the staff that if someone hears something that really clings to him, it's better to approach the person personally about whom gossips are blown up and ask him about the situation. Only in any case not allow yourself the contact of an idina. If at least one person gives slack, the boycott will not succeed, because the gossip will feel its power and will find a way not just to make everyone talk, but also to quarrel with each other. So be silent and do not turn your attention to her words. Sooner or later such a person simply does not survive. Someone can quit the collective at all, someone will try to talk about someone to spite, and some can really understand and admit their mistakes. In any case, if you can stay with the gossip, the atmosphere in your team will improve significantly.
Gossips are the problem of almost every team. Such people become the cause of conflicts between colleagues, the feeling of discomfort in the workplace and generally unhealthy atmosphere. Therefore, if you find out that there is a gossip or gossip in your team, be sure to do it in any way. You can use the above or come up with something yourself. The main thing is to work with the whole team and not let the situation on its own. Be confident, the longer you let the gossip do it, what it wants, the worse your relationships with employees and the work become.