"In one issue, men and women certainly agree: they both do not trust women."
G. Mencken.
Life is often compared to the road. But, alas, it does not even closely resemble a well-paved high-speed highway. Not as often as we would like, we are waiting for success, joy, luck, the fulfillment of all our desires.
And for the next turn, the road suddenly surprises us, and they are not always pleasant. And instantly, for a while, you completely lose "orientation" Even if you want to seem strong and keep all the troubles in yourself, it can be very difficult to carry out this intention in practice.
Negative emotions are so crowded that it is necessary to throw them out somewhere. Share, tell about everything. To listen, they stood on your side, sympathized, consoled and, at last, gave at least some advice. Long ago there is a saying among the people: "I'll destroy someone else's troubles with my hands ..." And it also begins to seem to us that our problems and their solution are much more visible from the side.
In Western countries, psychologists and psychotherapists are engaged in solving such issues. But, firstly, we have not yet received this distribution. "We have a different mentality," we say in response to advice to consult a specialist. And secondly, why pay a psychologist? When the girlfriend listens attentively, poohs, and, at last, utters such flattering words for you: "What are you tormenting with this ... (epithets substitute itself)? Be divorced and all. You will not find anything like that! "
Are you already thinking? .. Of course, she's right. After all, according to the mind you are Sofya Kovalevskaya, and by beauty you eclipse Penelope Cruz. And to find a more worthy object for your attention is not difficult. One has only to declare that from now on you are free. Suggestions of the hands and hearts of the richest and most beautiful men from all over the world will sprinkle on you as from a cornucopia ... In dreams, you have already begun to conduct their casting.
I'm sorry that I'm returning you to our sinful land inappropriately.
Ask yourself just one question. Why is your best friend "almost as smart and beautiful as you", still not married? Although she is already a little behind ... And all her romantic relationships evaporate after a couple of months.
Yes, whatever high position a woman holds, no matter how much a penthouse on Rublevka she did not own, she, too, sometimes seeks sympathy and understanding. "A strong woman is crying at the window" - this is about all women singing Alla Pugacheva. A woman always dreams of being weak. And, in fact, is one.
But in our time she prefers not to show her weakness. He does not want pity and ostentatious sympathy. "Strong" women have experienced much before they achieved this status. And in practice we were convinced that sympathy is 90% insincere. Sometimes it looks more like gloating.
Of course, as always, there are exceptions. These are the women who live happily ever after. Not show off. They do not assure others in this, but are actually happy. Because they live in harmony with themselves and the world. There are not many of them, but they are. A happy person is always kind and responsive. And if your friend is from this category, then you are very lucky.
But what to do with the test that fate so improperly threw you? Do not wear all the experiences in yourself? In no case! So you can easily fall into depression and see the world in the darkest and darkest tones.
A woman in such cases is often helped by shopping, so-called shopping. Going to a beauty salon, changing the image, and sometimes even a chocolate bar.
Go to the bathroom, get under the shower and "cry out" your problem. It hurt with water and flowed under the bridge. Chocolate after a shower is not canceled, but is welcomed.
To write out on a piece of paper that you bought, and what you lost, in connection with this situation. And how all this can serve as a lesson in the future.
I'm not talking about stronger means, such as alcohol, cigarette, etc. They only harm the health, only postponing the decision.
There is another way. He often helps me in life. First, aloud with understanding and awareness to pronounce the famous words of Scarlett O'Hara: "I'll think about it tomorrow." Try to at least calm down a little. Then be careful. Listen and look at all the information that comes to you: news, phrases, etc. In a short time you will surely get a hidden hint or an obvious clue how to "ruin" the situation. It could be an article in a newspaper, a broadcast on television, or even some song that sounded right next to it.
Believe, your Guardian Angel is always there and very much tries to help. Do not panic, but be careful of his prompts.