Teach the offspring to express wishes or discontent with words. When a poorly speaking child feels that they do not understand him, he begins to get angry. And then he gets used to not trust words, instantly turning to business. If your little hooligan was let down, do not defend him. Give the children the opportunity to understand themselves. And then explain why his actions caused such a reaction. Details - in the article on the topic "What to do if the child is fighting, pushing".
Raised a hand on his mother
For a child aged one or two years, a stroke or bite is a way of exploring the environment, no worse than others. He does not understand what hurts, he just experiments: what happens if I bite my mother? Shock? Toss on the hair? It is important to stop these attempts in infancy. The reaction of adults to such actions of children should be the same. If the mother is offended, the father is angry, and the grandmother, in response to "pranks" laughs - the kid just does not understand how to behave. It is not worth theatrical screaming or crying such a reaction, most likely, only amuse the crumb, and he will try to achieve it again. Instead, stop communicating with the child: turn away, go to another room. Adults should not give change. If, in response to a bite, you bite, the kid will unhook it as a carte blanche: if mom does it, then you can bite me.
It's one thing to be the mother of a fighter. It's quite another - when your angel is offended by other children. It is especially unpleasant if this does not happen before your eyes, for example in a kindergarten. Explain to your child how to communicate with the aggressor. The simplest thing is to advise you to stay away from the fighter. Teach your crumb to show other children that some of their actions are unpleasant for him. If the offender is always the same, talk to his parents. Sometimes they are not at all aware that their child is in fear of the group. Talk with the teachers. The administration of a children's institution is legally responsible for the physical and mental health of children. Therefore, educators are obliged to suppress aggression on the vine. Good teachers in groups rarely have fights: children are addicted to games, and when there is something to do, usually not until quarrels. From idleness, there begins senseless running around with injuries, fights, picking up toys. If the cases of aggression against the child are repeated, in spite of your claims, it's time to move on to the conversation with the authorities. If nothing helps, the best solution is to change the group or kindergarten. It's a shame that it is you, the injured party, who have to leave the battlefield, but it is better to remove the child from the traumatic environment than to treat his psyche later.
How to properly scold a child?
How to make your kid react to the ban, and you did not have to intercept the hand that was put down for the blow? Say "no" or "stop" in a calm, strict voice. If he obeys a crumb, he is a good fellow and should be encouraged, because this is a manifestation of his own self-control. Be sure to praise for stopping, obeying, and only in the last resort draw a conclusion that you can not fight. Sounds like this: "Seryozha, you can not! .. Well done, threw a stick, mother listened ... You know that you can not offend the kids." Children have a short memory, and an hour after the incident it is pointless to arrange a debriefing, scolding the fighter. If you can not immediately punish, refuse punishment at all.
Do not read morality, do not suggest to think about the topic: "And you will like it if they hit you". "Little children, because of the inability to think abstractly, still do not understand what you are calling. Sometimes the fighters "pity" the offended, asking for the petition automatically, because the mother ordered - and a minute later they are waving again. This behavior deserves punishment, and the best punishment in this case is isolation. Immediately after the impact without unnecessary conversations, take away or take the kid away from other children. The duration and the way of isolation depends on the temperament of the child, on the severity of the offense, because how stubbornly the little fighter repeats his attempts. If today the mother scolds for the fight, and tomorrow does not pay attention to her, the child is confusing. Punish any manifestation of aggression, without exception.
It is not good to answer strength by force, everyone knows this. But what if the abuser of your child does not contact you, or with you, or even with your own parents? Or aggression manifests itself unexpectedly. Or are you the first (and perhaps the last) time in your life to see a little bully, so there's no time to build a relationship, and there's no way to escape? One thing remains - to teach your child to give change. It is important to explain to the child that it is not good to pick up the first one, but you must be able to answer the blow. At home, act out an attack and defense by roles; disassemble, when it is possible to solve the conflict peacefully - to give a play in your toys, to give way on a swing - and when it is necessary to stand up for oneself. Let the child feel that you do not approve of the fight, but in this case you are on his side. Explain with the help of the game the difference between attack and defense. Now we know what to do if the child is fighting, jostling.