On the question of why a man needs to know the past of his girlfriend, of course, you will not immediately answer. Depending on the attitude to this topic, it is possible to distinguish several categories of guys.
- Those who have little or no interest in your past. This is not bad, but it is important to pay attention to some details. If the lack of such interest on the part of a man is caused by his respect for your freedom, for your past personal life, this is perhaps the best option possible. Such a man just understands that he has in the past had attachments and relationships, and his second half. A man does not make tragedy out of this and believes that what was, has passed, and there is nothing to stir him up.
However, be wary if you realize that your boyfriend is not interested in your past, not because he respects you, but because he does not need it at all. Perhaps he and your real will not really be interested! And anyway, it can be the case when a man thinks: we meet with her, and what happens outside these meetings, neither me nor she should be interested. So you can bring the situation to the point of absurdity, when meeting with you, he can have one or more intrigues on the side. In this case, he will allow you the same. But what kind of relationship! This stupid spread of feelings to anyone else did not bring happiness, do not be deceived! So be vigilant and try to understand what is behind the position of your guy.
- Another option - a guy is actively interested in your past, inquires details of your past relationships, etc. Perhaps there are reasons for alertness! After all, such a meticulousness in the desire to know everything about your past can be explained trivially and simply - jealousy! And if so, then in the future such situations will surely repeat. It's not easy to live with a jealous person. It takes a lot of patience to explain every time in paints that there is no reason for his suspicions, that he exaggerated everything, etc. Think, are you ready for such a life?
- The third situation. The guy listens with calm interest only about your past, which you tell yourself. A man perceives everything calmly, even with humor and does not react painfully to certain moments. This is also a good option. But do not overdo it with stories! After all, if a man does not care what you did before him in bed with another, if he is listening to everything calmly, then either you have a potential henpecked and a rag ready to obsequiously forgive you all (do you need such?) Or it is extremely indifferent to You are a person. This and yourself can allow you to sidestep, and from you will wait for the same indifference and indulgence. And this again is far from normal healthy relationships, and even from the ideal and even more so! And we all so want to be closer to him!
- Another option - a man - a gossip. Yes - yes, there are such! If you are faced with this, I would not advise staying with him in a close relationship. It is possible that behind your back he tells the friends in detail about both your current relationship and your past life. Such variants of men are often found among young ladies' lovers. Take a closer look at your beloved one. Does not he like to gossip about you with others (no worse than a woman!) What do his friends say about him?
If you are convinced that your boyfriend is a gossip, stay away from him, do not start a close relationship! Well, if you are serious, if this is true love, and before marriage and life together is not far, then be careful. Perhaps the gossip was his youthful unkind fad. Now he has settled down and nothing about his girlfriend (at least, about her!) Does not chat. Well, then you have happiness!
So why should a man need to know the past of his girlfriend? A normal man will keep a measure in everything. He will listen with interest to your story, but refuses to know the details. He will not climb into your soul and be jealous about and without. But you will also have to accept that he will not be interested in listening to your past successes on the personal front. A normal man should be hurt by the very thought that his girlfriend may be with another. That's why he will not listen to the details. He will simply ignore your past. Usually a man needs to know that now his girlfriend loves him, that she belongs only to him. A good man (and they are all hunters by nature!) Do not intend to share their long-awaited prey (that is, their beloved girl). Take this moment.
There are, however, a number of good reasons why a good man can sometimes be interested in the past of his girlfriend. In our sufficient free in terms of manners, some men are a little afraid of girls who did not have a relationship before it. Often, a man just need to make sure that he was not mistaken in the choice that his chosen one is interesting to other men (including was interesting). In this case, the past (but not too saturated!) Girl's personal life serves as a confirmation of her rating in the representatives of the male, her beauty, attractiveness and charm.
However, even today, not all men are the same. Many of them, on the contrary, choose not serious and accessible for a serious relationship, but modest, seemingly ordinary girls. At the same time, the guy, of course, draws attention to the appearance of his chosen one, and her figure, and her sociability.
If you take a closer look at your boyfriend, undoubtedly, the shortcomings between you will decrease, and your relationship will become stronger and closer.