Women note. If you became the boss of your girlfriend

An unexpected call to the director's office - and now you are appointed head of the department. Of course, the appointment is rarely unexpected. Usually in the team they are always aware of some possible candidates for this position. As a rule, they choose the employee who best copes with their official duties. In this case, a person does not always have the makings of a leader. If you are a wonderful performer, but you lack the hardness of the character, you can go through a special training aimed specifically at this. Now there are many companies that provide such services. Otherwise, you will not be able to manage your subordinates, and in the end it can end for you even by dismissal. Because sometimes to withstand the pressure of "girlfriends" for work is often not easy.

If you became the boss of your girlfriend, then your appointment can, as you bring them closer, and move away from each other. It all depends on your characters. It is possible that you will experience some embarrassment from the fact that they chose you, not her. In no case do not submit to the mind and do not share it with her and with his subordinates. If earlier you were a close-knit team, then once you have been singled out, a good relationship may disappear. But this, of course, is up to you. After all, you know better who you are dealing with.

A real friend should only be happy for you and further help in the work, and not harm. Speaking of help from a friend is not meant to be a denunciation. Although many enterprises have this practice. A specially hired person works, not being distinguished in a collective, observes moods and listens to conversations. And after that, he tells his superiors. From a moral point of view, this is somehow disgusting, but with management, it is probably necessary.

They say that real friends appear in a person in childhood and accompany him all his life. At an older age it is much harder to find a person to like, it is more difficult to talk about your problems, to open up. Why do we need a sincere girlfriend? That was, to whom to cry "in a vest", to tell about the pleasures and experiences. It is accepted, probably only in Russia, abroad, their problems go to a psychoanalyst. If you have such a girlfriend, then you are incredibly lucky.

After all, it happens that you think about it only the best, but as trouble comes, then not the best of its qualities begin to manifest itself. No wonder the popular wisdom says that a friend is known in trouble. In this case, there are two options: either to cease with her friendly relations and contact only for work, or leave at all. Everything depends on you.

Some, having taken the post of leader, begin to behave in an inappropriate way. Load work, require unquestioning obedience, rude. There are all signs of permissiveness. Of course, if you begin to behave this way towards a friend and subordinates, no one will be happy about it. And then the best friend will go into the "former" category.

To prevent this and if you value your friendship, you need to follow certain rules. First of all, in an off-duty setting, talk about your relationships in the workplace. As smart people, you must understand that there can be no question of any familiarity. All official duties must be performed accurately and on time. Your girlfriend should not boast of her closeness to her colleagues. And you, in turn, too, should not allocate it. Naturally, if a friend has made some kind of rationalization or successfully coped with the task - then another thing.

Workers need to be praised. To have an additional incentive to work well, there is a system of incentives. Take this technique into service and the results will not be long in coming.

With a wise leader, all the subordinates work in a coordinated manner, and, if necessary, can replace each other so that the work process is not interrupted. Also it is impossible to reproach all employees. For this, you have an office.

And the last thing - to every boss and every employee regardless of whether they are friends or not, I want the leader-subordinate relations to be successful. For this to happen, you need to make some efforts, and on both sides. Patience to you and good luck!