In our environment, there are many people that we cherish. But among them there are necessarily those without whom it is really impossible to imagine their lives. For these people, we are ready to give everything, without even thinking. We love them more than ourselves. Why is this happening?
Family ties
Family is a very important part of life for almost every person. Many people like to say: the family is above all. However, not everyone understands that the family can be not by blood, but by life. As for blood relatives, we often can not live without parents and without children. Why is this happening? Firstly, parents are next to us from birth. We hear their voices, we get used to them even when we can not even recognize it. Our parents are people with whom we spend most of our time until a certain age. And if the parents are really good, if they put all the best in their children, understand them and support them, then we feel that we love them more than ourselves. It is to them that we go to the council and support, only they can so pity and embrace, as no one else does. In this case, we are motivated by gratitude, affection, habit, nostalgia. After all, without these people, we simply can not imagine our life. In fact, the feeling that we love someone more than ourselves, paradoxically, is selfish. The fact is that thinking: "I will give my life for this man," on the verge of thinking, we think: "I will not live without this man. Let it be better for me than for the whole life, trying to live without it. "
As for our unrestrained love for children, here we are guided by a slightly different emotion. Children are our part. They are like us or people we love. From the very birth we put our knowledge and skills into them, we give all the best, we try to get what we could not get ourselves. In our children we see an improved version of ourselves. In addition, the child for us always remains in the subconscious of the defenseless being that we once took in our hands. Accordingly, all life we feel responsibility for his life. We consciously and subconsciously want to protect the child, our conscience and ours does not allow us to not cope with our duties. In addition, in the child we see ourselves, but improved. Therefore, it seems to us that it is better to sacrifice yourself, to enable him to achieve what we ourselves have not achieved.
Habits and nostalgia
Still we can so strongly love those, whom we know all life and who understands us as anybody another. Such a person can be a brother or sister with whom you have spent your whole life together. But it is far from necessary that there are family ties between you and this person. For example, it could be a girlfriend that you first saw at the age of four months. You grew up in one yard, you had similar tastes and interests. You grew up, received new experience and knowledge, expanded the circle of acquaintances. But this is not a portico relationship at all. On the contrary, every year you became closer and closer. Vitoge came a time when, analyzing your life, you realized that in almost every moment of her life you can feel the presence of your girlfriend. Even if she was not at the event, you talked about her or told her about what happened. With this person, you seemed to have an energy connection. You can communicate without words, because you know each other so well that sometimes words are not necessary for you. About such a friendship they say that this is one soul, which lives in two-bodies. And you completely agree with this opinion, because in spite of the fact that you can be radically different, in this person you see yourself as if it were a trip. We love such a friend more than ourselves, because we are not easily connected by many, we are connected by everything. This is a crazy feeling of habit for a person, without whom we really can not imagine our life, since they never lived at it. We are simply terribly afraid to imagine a world in which there is no girlfriend, because he will be different, he will lose half of the colors, because no one will ever understand how she understands. So much we love those people who know us completely, from A to Z. Virtually never they are parents, because how would we not like them, but from the older generation, it is not always possible to wait for the understanding that exists between peers.
The one who fulfilled the dream
Such a crazy and boundless love can be to someone who fulfilled our dream. What is it about? For example, you have always dreamed of a man, seen in your fantasies and dreams, what it should be. And here you meet your lover, who really turns out to be just like that. He does not play or adjust, he is simple, as it is. And this is exactly what we need. This is the fulfillment of the dream, which we have been waiting for so long and now, of course, very much afraid to lose such a gift of fate. By the way, many believe that such a person can only be a lover, but this is not so. Not everyone is named exactly the guy (husband). For example, you always dreamed of a brother, and then you met the person who became one. It's the brother you always wanted. It has its disadvantages and it is not perfect, but this is exactly what you have been looking for all your life, that family, kindred support and that attitude that should be international people, which you for some reason did not have. And let him vizbrat not by blood, but calling you sister, he really says what he thinks. Even if you have ten blood brothers, that's what you think is natural, because he is the one you dreamed of. And he became to them not because the family said so, and not because you so wanted, but because he himself feels so. This is the person who fulfilled the dream. And finding such happiness, we are very much afraid to lose it, because we feel that we did not rejoice in our long-awaited gift. Yes, and hardly ever rejoice. That's why we love such a person more than ourselves. After all, we have been looking for it for so long, waiting for it, and if it disappears, then part of it will not just die from life, it will crack in half and it will not be able to glue anything. Since to lose what we have dreamed all my life is most terrible.