Why men do not understand women's problems

Why do men not understand women's problems? Probably, to answer this question, each researcher will approach him from his point of view: thus, the psychologist will see the root of the problem in the psyche, the biologist in physiology, the sociologist in the influence of the environment.


Men and women are similar in many respects and yet, in order to answer the question posed, it is necessary to consider their differences. Differences are caused by different reasons: biological, mental, and social.


A different device of the genitals causes different sexuality. A woman is always sexy, a man only at times. A man dominates his sexual body, a woman, on the contrary, is in the power of her own. In living nature, the male in relation to the female is an offensive side, active. The female is a passive object of attack.

Since man also combines biological and social in the same way, a man in sex is also accustomed to attack, and a woman is more likely to yield. The difference in growth and muscle mass not only divides men and women into strong and weak sex, but also causes a lot of oppositions: activity - passivity, power - submission, logic - intuition, order - chaos, etc. A different hormonal background only strengthens the differences between the sexes. The high content of testosterone makes a man more aggressive. That's why women commit fewer crimes than men. Also, among the biological factors of differences, mention should be made of the dependence of the female body and the psyche on the menstrual cycle.
The existence of psychological differences between men and women is beyond doubt. A large number of studies have been conducted on the results of which the following conclusions can be drawn. Women excel in verbal abilities, men have an advantage in visual-spatial. Women are more emotional and expressive. A man lives consciously, a woman - unconsciously, she gets her consciousness from a man.

The thought of a woman slides over the surface, a man is used to penetrating the essence of things. Girls and women are better at dealing with routine activities. They are more prone to pessimism and suggestible, they have a lower level of self-esteem. Men have higher mathematical abilities, they are significantly influenced by the environment. Women have more developed auditory, and men - visual perception (the woman likes the ears, the man - the eyes). By the way, men and women differently perceive the appearance of man: the man "sees" in integrity, and the woman - in detail. And try to convince her that a person is cute, if she, say, did not like his nose or hair.
Man and society are inseparable. Only in society is formed self-consciousness. Primary socialization of a person occurs in the family, the environment, the school. And not the least role played by the media. The child "tries on" his gender role, and language, education, culture, religion only reinforce it. And in this sphere of problems abound: gender stereotypes, division of labor by gender into female and male professions, discrimination ...
Therefore, the question of why it is difficult for a man to understand women's problems can not be surprised. Not every woman will also be understood by men. Men do not understand women's nature, women do not understand men's. To step over yourself and your essence is impossible, and there is no need. The nature of a woman is such that she often comes up with problems herself. Women's problems - "What to wear?", "I'm fat," "He does not love me," etc. - cause only a smile for men. Without such "problems" the life of the fair sex would be unbearable boredom.
Undoubtedly, the real problems, that is, problems in the relationship, when a man and a woman do not understand each other, it is necessary to decide, and not to accumulate. Do this, you need not "from your bell tower," but taking into account the nature of the opposite sex. If there are a lot of disagreements, to re-educate each other is useless, it's like saying to a man: "Become a woman!" Or - to a woman: "Be a man!"

If you have many problems, you may not have enough knowledge on gender psychology or the art of living together. In this case, special lectures and seminars on the relationship between men and women are very helpful. In the relationship, it turns out, also has its rights and responsibilities for each of the parties. Visiting such courses together, you can achieve almost instant results. If your partner is against, start changing yourself. You can also help special literature, the meaning of which usually amounts to teaching a woman to be more feminine, and a man to be courageous.
The problem is not to get hung up on differences, to be able to find as many similarities and points of contact as possible. Men and women are different, but they are not opposite to each other, they complement each other in everything.