Can a woman be happy without children?

The question is not so much whether a woman without children can be happy, but that there are childless and happy women. And there are many of them. About the movement chayldfri recently becoming more known. The number of both opponents and supporters of deliberate abandonment of the opportunity to become parents is growing. What is this - the movement of Childfree? This will be discussed below.

There are more opponents of voluntary childlessness according to statistics, since a woman who does not want to have children is perceived by us as something selfish, subordinate only to the desire to lead an idle life being. Is this true? Why do some family couples so zealously defend their position childfree? And why do you need to defend the opposition, and not just live your life to please your personal misconduct?

And do you know that according to the definition of childfree, people who have given birth to children and are sorry about this can also be called? Are they so few among us? Alas, quite a lot. So it was not better to understand yourself in advance and not try to assume the role of parents, if you are not yet ready for it internally, than then to take out your irritation on a child who is not in a poor state? This is a painful question, few have the strength to admit to themselves that they once hastened with the birth of heirs, that I would like to live "for myself", but now I can not.

The main principles of the chailfree fans

1. Rescheniene bear children, consciously accepted, no worse than a voluntary decision to have a child. Someone wants it, some do not. Everyone has the right to choose.
2. Women (and men) childfree make a decision about the lack of children, based on several considerations. Material opportunities and wealth also play a significant role, but non-core. According to some, not to give birth is much more honest than chickens, not having the proper funds for normal nutrition, toys, the organization of leisure and payment for the education of your child.
3. Childfree (contrary to popular belief about them) does not at all experience aggression toward other people's children. They willingly communicate with little nephews, with little ones in the families of friends, but they do not intend to produce an own child. After all, to love something absolutely does not necessarily mean to acquire this "something".
4. Sometimes, because of the satiety of communicating with other people's children, women decide not to have their children. For example, educators or teachers.
5. Childfree denies accusations of his own selfishness, as they always have the opportunity to take care of their partner or about pets. In addition, it is possible to consider the concept of "selfishness" in different ways. For example, people who have children are essentially the real egoists - they act according to their desires and instincts. Why does Childfree do not have this right?
6. The desire to give birth to a child is not at all "a malfunction in the genetic program", a symptom of the "degeneration" of mankind or a sign of female inferiority. This is foolishness. People simply live in harmony with their inner demands and beliefs.
7. Some women chajldfri scares the health, beauty and sexual attractiveness, caused by pregnancy and childbirth. Problems with the spine, changed to unrecognizability formazhodi and appeared overweight - this is not what they would like to go to life.
8. Some of the childfree simply do not consider the world around so impeccable, to give life to this "chaos" to one more person. No one can guarantee that the child will live a full and happy life afterwards. And if the world is cruel, the economic situation is unstable, around uncertainty and disunity - it will be even harder to be a happy child.
9. Childfrigomogut cultivate and this position: our world is too overpopulated, why is it still people? And so the ecology is already bursting at the seams. That is, there is no longer selfishness, but, on the contrary, a global concern for humanity as a whole.
10. Life is beautiful, multifaceted and interesting. To have a child is only one of the colors in this palette, but not the basis of life - so count chillyfri. Time and so barely enough for a courier, travel, husband and personal interests, and the child only at times will exacerbate the situation.
11. Childfricheschitayut that their rights are constantly infringed by the excessive interest of outsiders to the "problem" of their childlessness. Sometimes even the pressure of the state is felt. And if you can somehow agree with relatives, you can not put your mouth around it, so to speak. Here also it is necessary to listen to each reproach: "What are you pulling with the kids?", "When will you already have an heir?". This interference in privacy, and opponents of this approach can be fully understood. Everyone decides for himself how he should live.
12. Of course, to most of these arguments, if desired, you can find many objections. However, it would be unfair not to highlight the position of the other side - people who have or want to have children. There are a majority in our society. And here are their counterarguments.

The main claims to chayldfri

1. They propagandize childlessness, creating communities, groups and organizations. Do not shout to the whole world about your unwillingness to have children. Do not want to - do not, but there is no need to build this into the absolute, waving slogans.
2. They are often unmotivated aggressively behave with other people's children - in public places, in transport, in a cafe. Children themselves are simply annoying some chayldfri.Eto is unacceptable, their emotions need to be able to restrain.
3. Childfrryavlyayut nechutkost even in relation to their sisters, brothers and friends the earliest mention of their children. They can not perceive children as a part of life (albeit not their own). They refuse even to just sit with the baby, see their photos, which is extremely offensive to their loving parents.
4. Many of the most ardent chayldfri this way clearly manifested long-standing psychologicalproblems. For example, a heavy domestic atmosphere in early childhood, a complete lack of love or other traumatic experience. These people do not know how to love others or themselves.
5. Because of adherents, the number of abortions increases. If a married couple does not want to have children, and contraception fails, the woman goes to an abortion. There is also a discrepancy between the positions of childfree with certain religious principles and principles.
6. Childrefrisuyut image of a young mother as a thick, groomed, stupid woman, holding the Vuma only the shit and the diaper. Childfri operate with "horror stories" about health, attractiveness and subsequent sexual life of a woman giving birth to a woman.
7. Childfriyslishkom radically oppose maternity and career success (equating it as a whole to life success). Allegedly the birth of a child automatically attracts the loss of the loss of skills, knowledge and prospects to get a good job after a post-specific holiday.

Of course, all these points of view have a full right to exist. Now that you have learned more of the magicfire and their opponents, you can understand better one of them. The main thing is to not bear, do not hang labels and do not forget that everyone is free to live in his life as he wants. And how it turns out.