The main reasons for the separation of people or why the relationship ends before they start?
In the metro / bus / on the street.
You go, suddenly you see him and instantly fall in love. Only on you depends, this love will end as quickly. After all, you take no chances by approaching the guy with the words: "Oh, oh, Vasya, are you this ?!" Oh, I'm sorry, I was wrong! "Or:" And if in your book is this poem? " I'm just going to the exam and I want to repeat it. "
With friend.
Everything can destroy the shyness, oddly enough, the old friendship is like kissing your brother. You should cool down a little, and even reduce for a while the communication, so that later you can look at each other with a "fresh" look. And you can offer him a game: for example, to meet as completely unfamiliar people.
After the first date.
After you have perfectly sat in the cafe, he disappeared, although you were about to be ready to fly from love. Or this temporary loss - wait a few days, then find it yourself, ask something neutral and look at the reaction. Or he was just frightened, because he saw you as a serious girl, ready for a relationship, and not just for a non-binding affair. Or all three hours you told him about how you want a child or how you love Kant's philosophy.
After the third date.
Three dates are enough time to understand if it's your man or not. If you have already fantasized yourself that he is yours, but he does not reciprocate, love in such a situation can not be achieved, because you have to appoint new appointments, write to him, become obtrusive ... and so in a vicious circle.
The minuses and pluses of separation.
1. You no longer have a person with whom you can walk for a long time under the handle on the autumn puddles. But you can often appear "in the light" and fearlessly flirt with new people, among whom there will necessarily be someone who will happily put rubber boots on you.
2. After parting, time without it lasts forever. But you can paint your day by minute and do a lot of things - time will now suffice even for what you have long delayed.
3. Artificial changes do not help you, and it does not get better. But you can safely cry all the tears, and then eat ten chocolates and just polenteynichat.
4. You do not want to do anything, let alone write essays for the university, after parting you are "no", Lessons will wait, but you can discover some creative talent in yourself. For example, write a story about your relationship - and that in the end, of course, was your new and very happy love.
5. After parting people, their tastes change dramatically. You can not wear those things that he liked, walk in the places where you walked, and listen to the music that he loved. But you can collect all the things and give it to a friend or an orphanage, change the style, open new places, love new music and become positive and, most importantly, free and open to new life.
6. You are unhappy. But now you have an invaluable experience that can be transformed into a very important idea: all that is being done, all for the better, just try to analyze the reasons for parting. After a while you will be happy to think: "How good that we broke up! I am grateful to him for everything, but now I feel much calmer and before me all the doors are open. "
7. You are afraid of a new relationship. But you have a chance to understand the important thing - love must develop.
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