Transitional period
The transition to maturity is gradual. Its stages are associated not so much with biological changes as with the level of education and professional qualifications. The transition from one stage to another can be commemorated by passing the examination for the driving license of school examinations to graduates in school or celebrating the 18th anniversary. Each such event represents one more step on the long journey towards maturity and independence.
Determination of independence
In modern society it can be difficult to determine when a teenager becomes completely independent. For example, many 25-year-old students are still financially dependent on their parents.
• Independence, both financial and emotional, is the key to maturity. Sometimes it is difficult to determine the age of its achievement, or professional obligations. Also, due to the rising prices for real estate, there is a tendency for a longer stay at the parents' house. In childhood, the first signs of independence demonstrated by the kids are the well-known "no" or "I want to do it myself". When the kids begin to enjoy the greater freedom in their movements, they realize that they are personalities separate from their parents. Attacks of anger, characteristic of a 2-year-old age, are a sign that children want to act on their own. However, this desire is accompanied by a feeling of irritation from the inability to cope with all the problems of the world around us. At the age between 2 and 3 years, most children begin to feel themselves as an independent person. Self-knowledge leads to the first signs of empathy - the ability to understand and respond appropriately to the feelings of others.
Making a choice
The period of growing up is the time when a young man chooses whether to give up his past and become a different person or try to include the former experience in self-development. The path to maturity includes certain stages in the life of a teenager. For example, passing the exams for driving licenses is an example of the expansion of freedom. Well-known outbursts of anger in toddlers testify to the ongoing struggle in them between the desire for independence and the inability to take care of themselves. Psychologist Eric Erickson believed that all teenagers face a crisis of personality - a point from which an adult can develop in one direction or another. It is observed when a teenager has not yet decided who he wants to see himself and how he would like to show himself. During this period, teenagers are prone to experimenting with clothing with a manner of behavior in relationships and life
Adapting to changing conditions
Unlike Erickson, other psychologists argue that personality changes are more dependent on the changing environment than on age or biological maturation. They believe that in a new social situation, changes occur in a mature person through personal diffusion, and this process can continue throughout life. Those who aspire to higher education, the greatest changes are observed during their studies at a college or university, and not in school years.
• Feeling of belonging to a social group is very important for young people, as well as their social acceptability among peers. Teens tend to share the tastes of peers in music and clothing. In the late teenage years there is a gradual refusal of friendship in the same-sex environment. In heterosexual groups, couples are often formed. The researchers found that the developing personality of a teenager is better stimulated to achieve achievements when he and his parents share their views on life in a friendly manner.
friendship
The sense of belonging to a group is important when young people are in a neutral territory - these are not children, but not adults. Some sociologists argue that adolescents form a separate culture in a small degree, coincides with the rest of society. The picture of friendly and social relations changes as they grow older. During puberty, friendship is predominantly observed in a same-sex environment in relatively small groups. In the middle of adolescence, larger heterosexual groups are formed. Many psychologists believe that most of the changes in the personality of young people are affected by specific circumstances and the greatest changes occur in secondary and tertiary institutions, and not in school.
Separation from family
At the beginning of the puberty period, friendly relations focus on joint activities, and over time, girls are more persistent in achieving and placing greater emphasis on friendships among their peers.
Idealism
As you grow up, a sense of idealism may appear. Ability to abstract thinking allows teenagers to present alternative family, religious, political and moral systems. Adults, with their great life experience, have more realistic views and discrepancies between these two views are often called the "generation conflict." The goal of any family is to keep the teenager in touch with his parents so that he continues to listen to their advice, but in the context of greater freedom.
Mutual respect
The final stage of growing up, when children are still financially dependent, can be the most difficult. The family must adapt to the characteristics of two categories of adults who lead different lives. Young people need freedom of movement, confidentiality; they want to take their friends in the house and feel that they can get up and go to sleep when they like. But to be sure of his true adulthood, a person must be independent and free from parental control.