Crisis of the first year
Yes, it also happens: post-wedding euphoria after some time passes, and the young wife begins to soberly look at her own husband and ... around. And what does she see? Eternally busy with service issues of the spouse, family happiness for which, it seems, consists in a heated dinner and in a soft chair by the TV. And "on the side" the young wife sees unmarried friends who live for their own pleasure, dinner does not warm up anyone and leaves for the weekend out of town with friends. The first stage of his wife's wedding hangover is called "Why did I want to get married?". If at this stage her husband does not make a go and make adjustments, then everything will go on increasing, that is, it will only get worse. What to do? You just need to throw the logs into the fading fire of love, whatever it may sound like. Because love, of course, has not passed, but a little to smooth a difference between premarital and marriage life of the spouse will not prevent. The clever spouse will briefly leave his official affairs and return to his wife that romance and that excitement, which, in fact, created their union at the time. What did they have? Walking together, trips together, suppers. Too together. And many, many words of love and tender nonsense. Usually two weeks of such "courting" a woman enough for a long time. A whole year later, she can hold out on this "infusion", and her husband again with a clear conscience will plunge into the work and into career passions, will sit in the chair in the evenings and calmly eat his dinner. Know that the crisis of family relations 1 year is very common.
The crisis of the third year
The third year of living together, according to psychologists, is the most difficult. If the wife is not obsessed with a career, and her family considers her main vocation, then it is in the third year of her marriage that she begins to "storm" a little. Simply put, she starts to get tired of her husband. She knows in advance what he will say, she guesses his reactions and his mood. It's good? It's boring. Every day is the same: the husband. This is the second stage of the wedding hangover. What to do? It is no longer possible to treat this fatigue with loneliness alone. The recipe is completely the opposite - your small team needs to be diluted. A clever husband, in order not to run the disease, chooses the right treatment. He goes with his wife to corporate parties, where there are many people, and, for the most part, unfamiliar. She goes with her on a cruise with a big company, in which he, the husband, can even get lost. But this is only an appearance: he is here, he is near and he watches for his half, who does not know about it and enjoys the appearance of freedom. What is very important is that a loving husband will never give his wife "to be eaten" by unmarried and divorced girlfriends, who will certainly contribute to the dissolution of relations. Result: after new experiences, the wife is tired, but not from her husband, but from companies, countless new and old friends, from their smells, voices and jokes. One day she will not want to go anywhere in the evening, and she will offer her husband a quiet dinner together in his own apartment. Victory! Because it will be a long time to rest after such a "spree". Some years. This does not mean, of course, that during these years the husband will not pay her attention, go with her to visit and have fun, will not go to the warm sea and so on. But a small amendment-they will always be only together; casual friends, acquired on vacation, and a school girlfriend, taken to the theater, is so, nuances.
The crisis of seven years
In many families, the third stage of a wedding hangover, the most unpleasant, can happen. Because the marriage experience is already considerable, and the husband, strangely enough, has again bothered. But he was not just bored, as in times gone by, but he was bored in the selfish sense of the word. What does it mean? The girlfriend married later, and is provided (materially) much better. The neighbor gave his neighbor a new Porsche and a handful of brilics, although the neighbor is not an ideal wife, even, one might say, on the contrary. And so on. This third stage is the most dangerous for matrimony, because if a husband does not have time to take time off, things can end not at all like in romance novels, which, by the way, the wife did not just read, but is natural, because she forgets about lunch-lunches - suppers. Cooking is almost stopped.
What to do?
First of all, what NOT to do. Do not whisper in the ear of tenderness. Do not promise the golden mountains. Also, do not try to return the location of the wife through the bed. All of the above - the path to the ravine, that is, to defeat. First of all, a loving husband will be for a while, silently watching the changed half, not trying to establish relationships or find out the cause of her bad mood. Then, completely unexpected for her, she will come home not just with a bouquet, but with an incredibly beautiful bouquet of flowers. Then he buys a tour, but not to Turkey, but to some exotic islands, whose name he spied on in another book about the love left by the wife on the nightstand. A wonderful tool in this situation - expensive gifts, but this is who and how much funds are allowed. Moreover, in order to console not too wealthy husbands, we will inform that their wives are not accustomed to excessive luxury, so ... It is necessary to give them what they are used to, even in their family life, and in their dreams. The dreams of modest and unskilled women are also rather modest. After this gift barrage to her husband you can slow down a little and play for the wife of a young man. She already without irritation will perceive and tenderness in the ear, and even reading poetry. She will return to her husband without leaving him physically. In other words, everything will be as before, before this third stage of cooling. Having received a spouse back, an intelligent husband will still try to somehow correspond to her ideal. After all, he was once her ideal for her? And she was happy with him, and did not seek sympathy from her friends, and did not read such romance novels ... There are few men who would like and could change. But remembering yourself young and returning at that time is even pleasant. And most importantly, it's worth it: happiness in your personal life has not spoiled anyone.