Friend at a set tariff.
It also happens that a person shows you his sympathy, sincerely interested in your life, offers help, but when you let him into your life, everything suddenly changes radically. In your relationship there is nothing more that would be qualified as "free of charge". Your girlfriend needs to intercept to pay, but she does not return debts. It seems to her that your new blouse is sitting on you in some strange way, but on her ... She urgently needs your husband's help in arranging a new job, otherwise there will be nothing to feed the cat. She regularly has a non-existent grandmother and needs money for medicines. Yes, you never know!
And if she does not require money, then she will ask you to take her on some very important business, stick wallpaper or something. Speeches about a mutual desire to help, of course, is not.
Look at her attentively. Do you see a really needy person who is experiencing temporary difficulties and is actively trying to solve his problems on his own with your little help or is it a person who wants all of his problems to be solved by you and only you? If you are convinced that before you the usual leech, which only waits, how to sit on someone's neck, do not delay, get rid of it!
To begin with, there are compelling reasons to deny her another request and voice them. If the girlfriend still insists, offer an exchange. You go to her store for her, and she is washing dishes at your house at this time. She does not agree? You have every right to be offended and against this background to stop the relationship. So leech or self-destruct, or will take care of using you in the future.
A friend from another world.
And this is not uncommon. In your life, a girlfriend may appear, which behaves quite adequately at first, but then it turns out that everything she is interested in is mysticism, karma, energy flows and the word of the Great Teacher. Well, she would be interested in this alone, but in the end, you also feel that you are caught in the abyss of mystical revelations. You look at this, and you yourself will get into the sect - after all, not from the ceiling, however, she took all these great revelations.
Be careful! Such a girlfriend can be really dangerous, if only because such an exalted state actually drags on and is transmitted like a flu. From it you can get caught up in the belief in those crazy ideas that it propagates.
Try to include the mind. Tell her that you do not completely support her beliefs, do not support conversations of the "otherworldly" character, or even better - invent a teaching that contradicts the basic dogmas of that which she accepted. Thus, a friend or stop to get on your nerves, or go to those who are ready to listen to her.
A blood friend.
You can not deny it - it's a friend - a relative. Sister, aunt, or, what's worse, mother-in-law. She offers to be friends, and you can not refuse. It is imposed, and you feel that you must accept it at any time and for any reason. But how else can it be possible to offend a relative?
It seems that this is the most difficult and complicated situation, because you can not get rid of a close person, and it's very difficult to re-educate him. If the vendetta is not included in your immediate plans, act cunningly, but calmly.
First, it is necessary to clearly declare the boundaries of the permissible. If you do not allow your old friends some things, you should not allow a relative.
Secondly, be gentle, but firm and consistent. Adhere to the framework of behavior and tone that will protect you from sudden night invasions and demands to sacrifice everything in the world only because in a difficult situation there was not someone but a relative.
Thirdly, try to muffle the guilt, but if the conversations do not help, you will have to increase the distance between you.
Friends do not always live up to our expectations, and they do not always behave in a friendly way. It is important to understand that a friend is not the main meaning in life. If the friendship becomes too burdensome, if the relationship becomes one-sided, if you understand that only you are friendly, and the friend only allows to be friends - cut off all attempts of such a friend to get into your life. Each of us has the right to happiness, no matter how it is not represented. Well, sometimes it happens that life breeds the best friends, but it also gives new ones, those who are not ashamed to call real.