In fact, when the difference between spouses is substantial, internal contradictions appear. But the family is a single whole, in the sense that the thoughts of the spouses and their aspirations are one. Otherwise, the situation on the family front is different, like the old Krylov's "swan, cancer and pike", you will not characterize.
This is a terrible word - age ...
Couples with a big difference in age some (and quite a long, I must say) time there are not just good - but excellent. The thing is that involuntarily the younger spouse (or spouse) has a great propensity to give in and adjust. A senior, not so important, a woman or a man - to dominate, solve the main issues and "pull up" the "youngest."
In such a pair it is very easy to fall into the semblance of a child-parent relationship. And they tear their nymphs on their hair, proving to their son that the wife should be smarter and younger - but this does not help. After all, their son finds himself the next "mother", which is also attractive in bed. Now for life support there is no need to struggle - nor is it necessary to find out who is the master of the house. "
Mamkina skirt
It is not too demanding, or its requirements are easy to carry out. She does not just bustle around the house - she often does not need help. A wife of an older age has already "burned" a couple of times, so with her eyes closed she is ready to exchange "macho" for such a sweet and cozy, beloved, soft and fluffy ... little son.
After all, the wife should be smarter and younger - at least not in order not to win back the "mother-son" relationship until the moment of procreation. And not too strong a man in this world, sometimes so want to hide "for Mamkina skirt!"
But in the opposite case - if the husband is older by 5-7 or more years - there is a high probability that the girl will want to be a "princess". Beautiful problem-free life, a lot of tenderness and care, financial well-being - and, as a result, in 40 years a woman can be under the supervision of a despotic husband and put up with this unenviable fate. And that's why a wife should be even smarter, not just younger.
Health and childbearing
In addition, do not forget that a woman still sooner or later have to give birth! So, in our time, when couples with the firstborn are in no hurry, and the value of early childbearing is reduced to almost zero, the wife must remain healthy, vigorous, full of strength for a long time. In addition, the birth of the firstborn before the age of thirty is physiologically justified. And later we will have to take care of our parents ...
Therefore, given that when men "mature" before paternity, the wife must undoubtedly be somewhat younger than her chosen one. And whether the independent, independent and successful of this "burden" - the dubious happiness of motherhood - will want to want?
Hair is long - the mind is short?
The difference in education is a reparable matter. But when the men will be charged for "long hair", not noticing the "short mind" - they are very quickly satiated. Therefore, many successful couples are exactly the ones where a man, despite all his career successes, is "stupider" than his wife in everyday and everyday life.
What could be more useful than puffing your lips in time, or complaining to your husband about a broken nail? And a man, killing cockroaches or hanging a shelf, feels very necessary and most important. So, a clever woman in the worldly plan is a real treasure. And if she is also pretty - then she is not ashamed to forgive very, very much ... That is why the belief that a wife should be smarter and younger still persists.
But still the mind is different. And the wife is a Ph.D., and she "has such a thick ... thesis", then at least she should distinguish between the home circle, where she is kind and affectionate, and her work, where her colleagues and (possibly) subordinates.
Family: survive and succeed!
Beliefs about what age and from which social strata to choose a couple, are still alive. But, strangely enough, occasionally it happens that bosses marry secretaries, and business ladies - on their subordinates, for example, sales managers. Still, few people survive in such relations.
And is it worth risking, if the love lasts a maximum of a year, and love (not to be confused with mature love) - three years. It is enough to give birth to children together and disperse ... Therefore, it is better to listen once more to folk wisdom and not to go against nature ...