Ideal does not exist - heavy moments happen in every respect. It seems to you that the neighbor Katya (who is already trying on a wedding dress) certainly never thought about parting with her boyfriend. Or your best friend who has just started dating a high school student will never have a reason to cry to your waistcoat. But good relations from bad people differ not in that there are no difficulties in the former, but because all the difficulties you solve. Together. From this, real closeness develops.
Stay in peace and quiet
In the beginning you liked these constant calls, esemasks, questions ... But here came the moment when you just wanted to be alone, turning off the phone and not reporting to anyone in your actions. And you decide: dislike! But there is nothing wrong with this: it's impossible, it's impossible to be with a person twenty-four hours a day! Part with the guy, if there is no love between you, try to just talk to him. Explain that you still love him and want to be with him, it's just that it's hard for you to endure such a pressure. He is not out of spite, he, really, is bored and worried. But if you really appreciate him, he will understand and slow down the momentum you want something new.
Girlfriends change boyfriends several times a month, and you have already met the same guy for the third year. And deep down you envy their romance and heartbeat before the first date ... Relations can not be frozen at the stage "we just met". Life is always developing. Advantages of novelty are the freshness of impressions. But there are things that come only in time: true trust, understanding with a half-word and sincere concern for each other. And do you really want to give up all this just to re-enable the "search mode"?
We are so different
The secret of good relationships is not the ability to find the ideal person, but the ability to find someone whose faults you are prepared to tolerate. Think, is it important for you to quarrel? And if he sometimes is sullen and unsociable, or does not like to go shopping with you, or (do it yours) - does it cross out all the other advantages? But if so, then ...
Red sign : but this is really the beginning of the end. His calls start to irritate you, you try to avoid meetings in every way, and on a date you always look at the clock ... This does not mean that you were not in love with him at the very beginning, but it just so happened: now his presence in your life does not cause you any joyful feelings. Well, it's time to admit this and stop deceiving him and yourself, thinking up excuses ("I'm just tired" and "today is a hard day"). In this case, you should leave the guy if there is no love between you.
Sorry for the tears
You've been thinking about parting for a long time, but still you can not make the main step: with you he became an excellent student, and without you he will again fall to the deuces. Or he has difficulties with his parents, and after your break he will feel very bad ... Do not think that without you he will disappear, it rather strokes your self-esteem. It's more honest to tell him everything as it is. And to give an opportunity to learn to solve their problems without you.
Step by Line
Treason, betrayal, lies ... You say you forgave. But the inner voice says no. Believe it and do not demand from yourself the impossible: the last feature of each has its own. A relationship without trust can not last long.
Parting according to the rules and without
Do not blame yourself: your separation does not mean that there was no love. Just the time is over. You thought it all over and realized that it's better to part. It hurts you and you want to not only inform him of your decision, but also express everything that has boiled up. Still, try to act wisely. First, remember the main rule: no parting by phone (SMS, "ICQ" or girlfriend-transmitter, too, are excluded). Only a personal meeting! Your boyfriend, even a former one, has the right to a real conversation alone. Meet better in a neutral territory, and not at home: it is unlikely that any of you want to have unwitting witnesses of the conversation were parents. Secondly, do not start a quarrel. Yes, let him do you a lot of pain, but now it does not matter. Better thank him for all the good that was between you. Is it difficult to find the right words? Then remember how he looked after you during illness or how he unexpectedly came to you with a bouquet of chamomiles. You had a lot of good, and everything bad does not cross out it. But about the decision to part, speak clearly, so that the guy does not have a false hope for the continuation. And, finally, forget about the "dirty tricks". Do not listen to girlfriends who advise you to find yourself a new boyfriend and start flicking with him under the handle under the windows of the former. What will you achieve? Believe me, humanity has not thought up anything better than the usual sincere conversation. If you can explain everything without hysterics and reproaches, then there is a chance to leave quietly. And it's valuable.
After the final
Do not think that you can remain your best friends. People are not robots, to click on the switch from the "love" mode through the "offended, go away" / "offended, abandoned" mode "quietly friends." Do not ask from yourself and from him the impossible: you both need time. In the meantime, take a large box and put everything that reminds you of it: first letter with a touching confession, a teddy bear he won for you in an amusement park, a petal from a long-fading bouquet ... Take this box away. Erase all the "your" songs from the player, hide the photos, change the wallpaper of the computer desktop selected together. You need to clear the space of reminders of it. Do not immediately rush to look for a new love. You need a break. Parting is a great psychological blow, and it's normal that you are sad. There is no need to keep a smile and pretend that "all is ok!": Allow yourself to experience. But just do not shut yourself in, it's better to make a meeting of friends or register in a dance section: a new business will give strength and confidence. And do not blame yourself. Your parting does not mean at all that there was no love, Just some relationship is destined to survive for thirty years, but somehow - thirty weeks. Try to forgive him and yourself for making mistakes. All your quarrels, meetings, conversations - this is an invaluable experience, for which you still not once mentally thank this person: for each other have become good teachers.