Only usually people get after divorce is different. Women are more likely to find new points of support, to realize their desires in the field of family and personal relationships. After all, families often collapse because a woman dissolves too much in a man's life. And her love becomes a blow to the neck, which makes the man naturally seek to get rid of.
Men after a divorce are more likely to find themselves in new business or career areas. After an unloved wife with her ambitions and material claims has remained in the past, a man can try to succeed in very different areas of activity. After all, now no one will reproach him for not earning enough, and he can risk, for example, creating his own business, investing his last savings and condemning himself to several months of half-starved life.
Whatever it was, find yourself after the divorce is for both men and women. Despite the fact that divorce is painful for many, and it is a really powerful traumatic event, it is important to understand that divorce is also an opportunity to find new niches for the application of efforts. This is an occasion to try a new style in a relationship. This is an opportunity to do your favorite hobby that your spouse did not like. This, finally, is a new chance to find a more suitable sexual partner, which is also important.
The main thing that you need to know if you've just divorced, or just about to divorce, are the main ways to quickly get out of post-traumatic stress, which happens to almost all bred people. And which can be attributed to the category of normal and common phenomena.
First, do not tackle a new one with old injuries. Take time and the opportunity to throw out all the accumulated negative emotions. You can cry, you can actively engage in sports, talk out in conversations with friends and friends. In any ways, try to lose weight the very first unpleasant experiences after the divorce.
Secondly, to succeed after a divorce is almost impossible, if you are trying to return a spouse or seek to maintain a relationship with him. Give him or her to leave. And if you live close to each other and you have common business or children, try for a while to stop all contacts that do not concern these common affairs - by mail, by ICQ, by phone. Trying to glue the destroyed irrevocably relationships, you just tighten the period of acute stress and intensify the traumatic consequences of the divorce.
Third, divorce as any crisis is an occasion to reassess your own life. How to succeed after a divorce and find yourself - this is not at all an empty question, requiring a thoughtful approach. Experts in the field of personnel management have long noted that people who reach career heights tend to do it in an area that perfectly matches their desires and dreams. Let's say you were forced to work as an accountant before the divorce, as this work helps you to stand firmly on your feet, feed your family, a dog, provide the opportunity to refuel the car for a trip to the dacha and go to Turkey once a year to rest. And in your heart you have long dreamed of becoming a stylist. Divorce is an excellent occasion to be shaken and try to do what you have long dreamed of. There are fewer good stylists than good accountants. Probably because many people like you, for a long time, are afraid to experiment with creative professions, feel embarrassed to work as a freelancer. But if you really want to, it is realistic to succeed in any field. And the sphere that is closest to your interests is often a golden key to career success. Moreover, it is also the key to happiness. Earn money for what you like to do - is this not the dream of almost every inhabitant of the planet? Alas, but often spouses suppress each other's dreams. And only after the divorce, each of them gets the opportunity to find himself in the kind of activity that is close to his dreams and desires.
And, finally, fourthly. After you were able to establish an emotional distance with your ex-spouse, you splashed out negative emotions and found yourself a new hobby or more interesting work, it's time to take up your personal life. Do not wave your hand at the opportunity to start a family again. Often after the divorce, both men and women swear to themselves that they will never even talk about marriage. And having given myself an attitude of loneliness, we are screening quite interesting and promising acquaintances. But in fact to be successful and not be able to succeed in your personal life - things that are not compatible. The main thing is to understand that your divorce has given you a wonderful experience. He gave you the opportunity to find yourself in new spheres, which previously did not suit the soul mate or members of her family. And besides, divorce is an occasion to find more suitable and in spirit, and in the image of thought, and in the vital values of a loved one.