Surely you and your husband are responsible for a new role for parents and have passed a special course at school for future mothers and dads. Such occupations are indisputably important, because you understand them not only in theory (how to care for the newborn, how to eat mother), but also practice (breathing technique, relaxing massage). It helps a lot in childbirth! However, today, in addition to knowledge and skills, you can have more real helpers. No, it's not about the beloved man (it's unlikely anyone will be surprised by his presence at birth), but about a man who is called a muzzle (from English doula).
Oda Odena
In 1956, in the most ordinary hospital in France, there was an unremarkable general surgeon Michel Auden, whose competence included obstetric operations. They also glorified the doctor. Now Auden is known to the whole world! He wrote twelve books ("To be born happily", "Reborn birth", "Primary health" and others), which were published in 21 languages! But not only this is the merit of Michel Auden. In different countries, the Frenchman is known as a man who, in the 1970s, introduced swimming pools, rooms with home furnishings and ... courses for muzzles, women, called to help in childbirth, in midwifery practice.
What does the barrel do?
The word "dula" means a professional companion in childbirth, which once gave birth, but now knows how to facilitate this process for the future mother. And this woman does not have to have a medical education. The main thing is her personal experience and her desire to help. And since Dula perfectly understands the essence of all that is happening, it is she who, cooperating with specialists (a doctor, anaesthesiologist, midwife), will correctly inform you, "translate" incomprehensible medical terms, explain, calms down. With such an assistant, you will not worry that when you need anything, the nurses will be busy with another woman in childbirth. The task of the muzzle is to provide emotional, physical and informational support to a woman in childbirth. In fact, the muzzle performs a soft mediating role between giving birth to a woman and new people and ... facilitates fights, attempts by the future mummy. How? With the help of their skills. Dula knows the techniques of relaxation, knows how to use acupressure massage (both for relaxation and stimulation of labor), suggests which position of the body is best taken in each of the birth periods to reduce pain, recalls the breathing technique ... Even the pleasant musical accompaniment takes care!
The third is not superfluous!
Do you think that when you go to the birth of a barrel, your husband does not need to be there? Believe me, the presence of one "character" does not exclude the presence of another. And if both you and your loved one are psychologically ready for partner births, nothing prevents you from taking this decision and ... taking a competent, experienced muzzle to the company. It will not be the third extra! No, the woman will not take it upon herself, leaving your husband a passive observer. Dula will tell him what he can do for you at one time or another, approve, support. This is also important, because the future dad is very worried! And for you, and for your baby. Take it into account and do not demand too much from him! Thanks to you, husband, dula, doctor and midwife, a wonderful booty appeared? Congratulations! And we hasten to inform you that for a few more hours you will be under reliable guardianship. Dula will help to attach the toddler to the chest (and at the same time will tell you how to do it in the future), will track the medical manipulations and ... leave to go back to your first call, because the connection with this person will last a lifetime.