Frequently asked questions about sex


Sex is as endless a theme as life itself. Only it seems to us that we know everything about sex as new problems arise. What is dangerous for anal sex? What erotic zones men have forgotten? What is the wife of ejaculation? Answers to the most frequently asked questions about sex - vital, intimate and bold - read below.

Question 1. Who invented the condom?

According to legend, this contraceptive was invented around 3000 BC. The amorous king of Crete Minos, who often betrayed his wife Pasiphae, was cursed by a jealous wife: under the influence of the spell during ejaculation, he erupted not with cum, but with snakes and scorpions, and his mistresses died from bites. Then Minos thought of introducing a goat bladder into the vagina of his beloved - and a condom was invented. But in the sale of condoms came only in 1712. They were used exclusively for personal hygiene when visiting brothels and houses of entertainment.

Question 2. Why is circumcision necessary?

"Circumcision of the prepuce of the head of the penis is traditionally considered a hygienic procedure, because under the foreskin, microbes and dirt can accumulate, causing inflammation and unpleasant sensations in a man," explains the urologist Mikhail Sapkov. "In addition, the head after circumcision becomes slightly less sensitive, which allows a man to perform more frequent and prolonged frictions without the risk of premature ejaculation."

So you need to do circumcision or not? There is still no consensus among doctors and scientists. But if the foreskin is poorly opened and the man experiences pain during frictions, doctors advise that circumcision be performed even in adulthood. This operation is absolutely safe.

Question 3. Can smells affect the desire?

In erotic stories, there are often "stories of smells": two lovers are so pleased to "breathe" each other, that they can not break their embrace. In sexology, there is even a special term - "chemical compatibility". "The importance of odors in sexual life can not be neglected," the sexologist Vladimir Prokhorov is certain. - Surely you noticed that a man excites you with one of his appearances, and you can not exactly explain what exactly he is attracting you to. This is the power of the smell. The smell of a lover can be so attractive that other men will simply push you away! So does the female fragrance. The man remembers him for several days. "

Question 4. How long does perfect sex last?

New research by sexologists has shown that the optimal duration of sex is from 3 to 13 minutes. The survey, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (USA), was attended by 1,500 couples. Analysis of the obtained data showed that the average duration of sex is 7.3 minutes. At the same time, long preludes do not appeal to both men and women.

Question 5. What makes us sexy?

The most profitable clothing for women, according to research - this dress. In second place - tight-fitting jeans, short skirts, tight business suits, black lace underwear, lack of brassiere and heels. It is also noticed that a woman in a red or orange outfit causes more sexual interest in men than in blue, yellow or white. Men categorically do not welcome multi-layered foundation and bright nails.

Question 6. Can I enlarge my breasts with a diet?

"There is no special miracle complex designed for breast augmentation," says Irina Malikheeva, a gynecologist. - Do not believe the popular rumor about the allegedly miraculous properties of cabbage and intoxicating broth. But playing sports can adjust the shape and slightly enlarge the chest at the expense of the large pectoral muscle, which serves as the "foundation" for the breast. The size of the mammary gland is determined by heredity: most likely, you can not compete with your own mother. However, in the mammary gland there is fatty tissue, so with a general gain of weight, the breast will become more magnificent, and when losing weight, on the contrary, it will decrease. " However, polls say that it's not the size. Men like not so much the volume itself, how many, a form that can just as easily be adjusted.

Question 7. Anal sex - is it dangerous?

Such experiments can cause injury only if you do not observe the "safety technique". "Anal sex requires a lot of preparation. A woman needs to relax muscles as much as possible, otherwise the partner risks damaging the rectal mucosa, - explains the sexologist Vladimir Prokhorov. - Also you will need an artificial lubricant - lubricant, to facilitate penetration and remove pain. Act carefully and take your time, focusing on your own feelings. If you become sick or uncomfortable, be sure to tell your partner about it and ask them to stop.

Question 8. Why do we need kisses?

Sexual kiss releases chemical substances that exert a narcotic effect on the brain, 200 times more powerful than morphine. That's why a kiss can excite us more than other caresses! In addition, when kissing included in the work of all 29 facial muscles, increased metabolic processes and blood supply to the brain. Regularly kissing couples for a year can lose weight by 3 kg!

Question 9. How do male and female erotic dreams differ?

Male and female fantasies are different, says the sexologist Vladimir Prokhorov. - Men often imagine sexual intercourse with an outsider partner or group sex. Women's fantasies are more emotional. In dreams, women often make bold and frank deeds, which they would never dare to do in life. "

Question 10. Is abstinence harmful?

One of the most frequently asked questions. "Yes," the doctors say in one voice. "For a man, prolonged abstinence is fraught with stagnation, decreased sperm motility, inflammation of the prostate gland," explains sexologist Galina Lazareva. - Women also should not live without sex for a long time, it can lead to nervous disorders, and stagnation of blood in the pelvic organs threatens inflammation of the ovaries and appendages. "

Question 11. Why does it hurt during sex?

"The cause of pain can be a short prelude, during which you do not have time to relax. Do not hesitate to tell the partner that you need a little more time to "warm up", - advises the sexologist Vladimir Prokhorov. - Another possible cause - insufficient allocation of lubricant in the vagina. This may be due to alcohol use or breastfeeding. Use a lubricant to facilitate penetration. Dryness can also occur due to vaginal infection, irritation of the mucosa or involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles. In the latter case, you will need to consult a gynecologist or a psychologist, because it is almost impossible to overcome vaginism by yourself. "

Question 12. How to find the "same" muscles?

Try to put a finger in the vagina: the right muscles should be compressed around the finger, but the muscles of the abdomen, buttocks and back should not strain. If you do not feel the right muscles, try to delay the process consciously during urination.

Question 13. Why is it necessary to train intimate muscles?

Developed intimate muscles, in addition to pleasant sensations during sex, can serve other useful service to both men and women. "The trained muscles make it possible to make the rolls less painful and significantly reduce the risk of postnatal tissue rupture. They help to overcome pain during sex and prevent spontaneous urination (for example, during sneezing), explains gynecologist Irina Malpheeva. - Men are also able to support in the tone of the muscles involved in the process of ejaculation. Thus, they can prevent the development of incontinence, and also prolong the sexual intercourse and enhance the sensations of orgasm. "

Question 14. What can be considered a sufficient reason to appeal to a sexologist?

"If we are talking about men, the serious reasons for going to the doctor are a weak erection, and regular premature ejaculation, and the absence of ejaculation or orgasm," explains the vice-president of the Russian Association of Sexologists Eugene Kulgavchuk. - It is better for women to seek help from specialists with vaginism and lack of orgasm with a relatively long (more than two years) regular sexual life. On these questions about sex, you should not seek an answer yourself. "

Question 15. What can a real Don Juan do?

It turns out that sultans and sheikhs, surrounded by dozens of devoted wives, are not the most loving and hot men. The absolute record - 47 children, delivered by one Bedouin from the United Arab Emirates, was beaten by two Brazilians. Not once married 54-year-old Fidelis Florentine awarded his numerous lovers 53 children, and in all cases, paternity was officially recognized. Another Brazilian Jose Almeida has only five wives and three permanent mistresses who has more than 60 sons and daughters.

75-year-old Russian don Juan Evgeni Prokofiev composed before his death a description of 578 of his mistresses. And this is already an application to the Guinness Book of Records!

Question 16. What are the forgotten erogenous zones for men?

"In addition to the nipples, the entrance to the vagina and clitoris with strong erogenous zones in women are most often the back surface of the ear, eyelids, shoulders and" cat's place "on the back between the shoulder blades, - says the therapist, sexologist Alexander Poleyev. - There are women on whom kisses of fingers and toes of the toes, buttocks, navel, waist, inner thighs, and also the area under the knee excitably act. It is best if a woman knows her "secret places" and does not hesitate to show what exactly they should do with. "

Question 17. How does Viagra work?

Leader among the most frequently asked questions about sex. The action of the miracle pill sildenafil (commercial name "Viagra") is to ensure an active blood flow to the penis for a full, steady erection. But the drug itself does not excite, it only performs "subsidiary work" when a man "wants". Among the side effects are headaches, dyspepsia, diarrhea and a heavy load on the heart.