Such a link, as not cool, brings a lot of tears and emotions to the girl. None of us wants to be the second or even the first, we should be the only one. And not otherwise. But many of us draw an unprecedented magnet to this man and we simply can not resist. Plunging headlong into this love abyss. In such a situation, the woman is motivated by a huge emotional principle, which includes many sub-points, based on such feelings as love, affection, immediately in step with her boldly and confidently stepping on the object of her adoration. Also, at a subconscious level, the fact that, anyway, sooner or later it will be mine, after all, he is worthy of the best, that is me, is scrolled. And to say something about the fact that a married guy is a stranger, there's no point, it's unlikely that something will change. You have realized this many times, but with your hands and feet you try to throw this unpleasant fact away from him.
And he keeps you by his usual instinct, the fact that all women are hunter-like in nature and set a goal for themselves (in this situation, the goal is a man), they simply do not give up on it. And they will hurt themselves, bumping into failure once again. Here it is worthwhile to think about the fact that you really need it, maybe you should leave everything as is and just leave. And do not delve into yourself, relying on the fact that you can not do it. Whoever wants - he will leave, find the strength and give up. Believe me, I will give up - this does not mean losing anything. It just means changing your life for the better. There are so many free guys around who will replace your married friend. And you turn from a mistress into a favorite. What would it take to figure it out in yourself, overcome your insecurity and completely abnormal dependence. Waiting for the weather at the seaside is not an option, and therefore hope that someday it will become fully yours, a silly affair. You can wait that all your life. She is his wife, and who are you and what is your name? She's with him, and you're just waiting day after day, wasting your precious time on the wrong man.
Therefore, before it is fruitless to burn your life by satisfying a married man, you need to give yourself a report that these relationships, in most cases, will lead to nothing. Just take it and look at yourself from the side and in your right mind comprehend all the pros and cons of this novel. You give him your best years, and what do you have in return? A couple of hours of communication several times a week. Do you even strive for this? He has a family, but what do you have? You will answer it and you will make a deep mistake, but you will not. He is not yours at all, according to all laws, she has every right to it, for marriage is sacred. And you, too, have often thought about creating a family. A married guy for this business does not fit at all - he is for you a strange man, how not to twist. So one can stay. Razvve in itself such qualities as patience, self-respect and the desire to fight for happiness. And direct it all to the search for a free man. Stop to spend it on empty attempts to get someone else's husband, it's really silly looking. He's not yours and he's fine. I would like to be with you, I would not hesitate with a break. A man flattered when he was loved and afraid to lose just two women. For this reason, I do not want to change anything at all. After all, they are selfish and think that they immediately break down the lives of two women is not their business. Think about it, do not look for trouble for yourself, because the wives also are different. They also know how to fight for their own and at the same time use the entire military arsenal, directing it in your direction. And a good end here does not smell. Pity yourself - you deserve better. Why look for problems.
And, nevertheless, let's think a little sensibly, that's why he will leave his family, come to you and what's next, what future do you have for the two of you? The man who left his wife, can just as easily throw you. An exemplary family man, he is unlikely to become. After having once experienced relations on the side, who will give a guarantee that he will not sooner or later pull to the left. You can easily be in the place of his current wife. And in all its glory to try on the status of a woman who is being changed. So stop living with empty hopes and illusions. I believe in a bright future, where you live together happily ever after. Such endings have only fairy tales, and certainly not our real life. Before it's too late, just run away from such a relationship. After all, we were taught in our childhood by parents: "never take anything stranger". And he is for you and is a stranger, not yours.
And you do not have to worry about the obsession that you love him. Do not build illusions - this is not love. True, pure and strong love is always mutual. And if a man fools your head for years, constantly promising you the "golden mountains" and doing nothing for it, is not called love at all, but is a coloring of selfish goals. He just uses you, receiving from you what his wife can not give him. He compensates for its shortcomings with your advantages and vice versa. It is convenient for him that you are always close. And why should he change anything. Find strength in yourself and put an end to this situation. Go away without turning around. Any, even the most powerful feelings, heals time, and our inalienable desire to get rid of them. By the way, the wedge kicks out and it's true. That you should start a new relationship, only with a free guy. Believe me, after giving up your lover and, incidentally, from his wife, you will immediately feel what horizons are opening before you. So do not sit in one place, just move forward.