Friendship is the same important relationship in the life of each person, like love. Therefore, we all want to have friends. Some girls prefer exclusively female society, but others can not live without a male company. But with close communication with the guys, there is always a chance that someone in you will fall in love, and this is in its own way a real tragedy. That's why many girls are interested in the question, how to learn to be friends with guys so that they do not fall in love?
Tell the flute "no"
If you really want to be friends with young people, never allow yourself to behave so that the guys think of something more than an exceptionally friendly platonic relationship. Many girls often flirt with guys just in order to have a little fun and raise their self-esteem. With friends it's better not to do it. Guys do not understand that girls need to flirt exclusively for self-assertion, and not because the man she likes and she wants to have with him something more than friendly relations. Therefore, if you throw some unintentional jokes aside to the young man, "shoot" eyes and so on, there is a risk that he will perceive such flirting as a signal to action and will try to establish with you a romantic attitude. Therefore, if you do not want to lose a close friend, behave with friends as well as with friends. After all, you do not smile a double-faced girl and you do not wink at them promisingly. With boys, you need to behave the same way. They should always be sure that you see in them only friends, and not a sexual object. If a woman at least occasionally allows herself and the guy something superfluous, sooner or later he will still think about the sex, and although they say that you will not spoil friendship, it's far from being the case. A person who perceived the second exclusively as a friend, suddenly can understand that he fell in love, and if the feelings are not reciprocal, then the true friendship can eventually turn into mutual irritation, and even hatred. So, dear ladies, always watch your behavior in the men's company, so that you do not have to disentangle the consequences of the situation that you yourself have created.
Be a real friend
If you want young people with you always just to make friends, you should be exactly their friend, not your girlfriend. By the way, this does not mean that you are obliged to do everything so that the guys completely forget that you are a representative of the fair sex. Men should still show respect for you as a girl, help and so on. This is a completely different matter. You have to understand the guys and share their hobbies. It is with friends that the guys talk about football, about cars, and clothes. When a woman begins to show disrespect to their interests, to impose a purely feminine opinion and so on, a man ceases to see in her a friend. For the guys it is quite logical and understandable that women do not understand them. They are at it and tolerate it. They love their girls, but their friends clearly do not count. Therefore, if you want to be a friend and only a friend, then behave like a friend. You should be prepared for the fact that you will be discussed with other ladies and the sexual victory over them, and not always in a mild form. You will go to them on football, discuss novelties of computer games, sit in the garage and drink, while trying to figure out what happened to the car at this time. Nobody will force you to do something from this list, just for a friend this behavior is normal . A guy will never fall in love with you, if in his mind you are primarily a friend, but a nerd. Therefore, try to always behave in such a way that young people do not remember that you are a woman, with a completely different psychology that you can love, but that you can not be friends with.
Should we be feminine?
Many girls think about the question, the influence of licking on how men treat us. Undoubtedly, it affects, but this does not mean that the girl should stop being feminine for the sake of her friendship with the guys. Rather, it needs to stop being too fragile and helpless. Many women constantly pretend to attract the interest, give men the opportunity to feel themselves as strong defenders, and this feeling contributes to the emergence of sympathy. Therefore, if you do not want the guys to treat you exactly as a potential girl, be independent. This does not mean that you should never turn to friends for help. Nothing like this, because men also help each other. Just if you yourself know that you can handle the problem yourself, do not look at your friends unhappy and show that without your help you are so fragile and dependent, you will never get by. When men see that their girlfriend is not helpless, they are imbued with the masculine respect, such as they have to each other. Therefore, leave all your grimaces for the men who really want to seduce. And your friends let them see a strong and independent nature, which can go on a campaign with them, and carry a backpack, and help, in something. Of course, you should not go too far and try to do what a normal average statistic woman can not do. You should not prove to anyone that you are the same peasant as they are. You have every right to be feminine, dress your heels, fashionable dress and march along near your friends in a model gait. They will be sincerely proud that they have such a beautiful and fashionable girlfriend. But at the same time you need to be able to keep up with them exactly "their" themes, entertain themselves as they and at any time without whining and zhidkompereobuyvatsya in sneakers, put on an old T-shirt and go with the guys for their affairs. Remember this always, and then you can be their true friend.
And yet, do not play or try to impersonate the one you are not. Indeed, only girls who are really interested in these boyish entertainments, their way of life, their jokes, their time, can be friends with the boys. Therefore, such girls are really easy to understand young people, because they themselves have this kind of thinking. If the girl tries to be such, stepping over herself, then, in fact, her friendship with the guys is a farce, with which she simply tries to prove something to someone. And this should not be done at all. In fact, do not force yourself to be friends with someone. One girl is actually more interesting in women's society, and the other in men's. And there is nothing terrible in this. Simply, if you will just play in friendship, then the guys will simply feel your insincerity and stop seeing you as a friend. And this is the direct road to love, or to hatred. Therefore, if you are friends with guys, then you must be sure that you want from them exactly friendship.
Many believe that between a man and a woman can not be a friend. In fact, this is not true. Just some girls can not treat themselves with men only as friends, and this also provokes men to translate relations from friendships to others, more intimate. If a woman wants only to be friends, never trying to seduce and fall in love, then next to her will be really good, true reliable and true friends-friends.