For each of us, at a certain age, there is a tangible baggage behind our shoulders - knowledge, experience, disappointments and joyful moments ... But no matter how we change and our perception of life, we continue to live with the same values and attitudes that were laid in us in childhood and early adolescence ...
In fact, this inability to "change the head" hinders us very much. It hinders us to be more comfortable with something, live to the fullest, do not be afraid of tomorrow ... let's think about it and answer honestly whether these statements apply to us:- One lucky in life, and others - pathological losers.
- Everything is given to me with great difficulty and complexity.
- At me in certain areas at the most inopportune moment all collapses.
- A happy tale of life is not my story.
I'm an inspector!
But let's first make an excursion into our past. Each person comes from childhood, and our consciousness is something like a vacuum cleaner, which collects everything that he sees and hears around. And depending on what is more "vacuumed" our consciousness, and our life develops.
We will explain: our consciousness is such that once one learns to do something in one way, it is sure that it is simply impossible to fulfill a task in another way. Therefore, the first step for "curing from attitudes" is to review "our reality."
Usually we find any reasons to justify it. The work is bad - there is no "shaggy paw", the husband drinks - all muzhiks are alcoholics, this guy is better not to meet - he is a womanizer, etc. It is these thoughts and feelings that do not allow us to give out the best result.
And then the next step of our audit is to ask ourselves: am I pleased with the result that I received? If, nevertheless, you honestly admitted that the "results" of your life do not suit you, then it is necessary to work with your belief system, since it is in it that the triggering mechanism of your problems is located.
The settings are formed in the family and the environment - this is an axiom. Parent's worldview has a huge impact on children's thinking and worldview in the future. One of the parents wants to raise a child in his own image and likeness, based on his own experience. Others want to raise a pile opposite, so that the child's life is better than they have. And only a minimal part of the popes and mothers think that the child has his own character, which needs to be strengthened. In addition to parents, our worldview and beliefs, of course, are affected by society. A person is formed before the age of 25, and as we grow up, any social group (school, street, institute, work) has a direct or indirect influence on our belief system, from which we will see, evaluate and act. In other words, our belief system is like glasses, through which we perceive life in every moment. And it depends on this perception, what action our consciousness will choose in a particular situation.
Our personal experience
It is negative experience that forces us to believe in the attitudes that exist in the mind. Suppose, one day, because of your laziness or during the decadence of the spirit, you decided to perform certain "actions", but these actions were not strong and rather mediocre, did not show the proper pressure and diligence in carrying out the task. Accordingly, the results of the efforts made disappointed you. From here, you subconsciously came to the conclusion that any manipulation in this direction leads to insignificant results. And if this is repeated more than once, a person is formed the idea that he can not do much, that is, he subconsciously begins to limit his potential. Another time, such a person will already think that his capabilities are small, and therefore, he will act far from active and energetic. For example, we are offered a higher and more responsible position, a new place of work, we doubt (although we so like the offer!) And even refuse, because "I have never worked at this position, I'm not sure I can manage" or "this not mine". It turns out that others in us believe, and we ourselves?
The next damage caused by unmanageable ineffective beliefs, when we doubt others, completing the negative result by fantasy and acting through the prism of the formed beliefs. And who will like it, what do they doubt? So we lose friends ...
Effects
Most often, their negative role is played by beliefs in such areas as love, money, personal perspectives. We do not want to, so we are afraid of making mistakes, that from caution we begin to give preference to those beliefs, to those thoughts that force us to act half-heartedly, without giving ourselves completely to the process. "Do not put pressure on a person, do not show initiative, I will only do this or that - and not more - for this salary." I'm not going to show feelings, otherwise he becomes conceited and will abuse my feelings "... These are incorrect settings. Instead, it is necessary to concentrate on creating those beliefs that will help you to be yourself, to speak openly, to make mistakes, to correct, not to endure fiasco. That is, live in full force!
Happy future
Small but significant changes in the way of thinking can open the way to great personal success. All people who have achieved success and succeed in life have proactivity, psychologists say. What is this and how to bring it up in yourself?
Proactivity is the main property of human nature, helping, despite the circumstances, to achieve results. This concept includes:
Activity is an active life position. There is nothing superfluous and unnecessary, everything is a building material for the present and the future.
Responsibility is a conscious approach to choices, strategies and results. Do not do what is customary or have done to you already thousands of people. And to do what is necessary to achieve a high result. And if you analyze your life and start living proactively, the results will not be long in coming. So go ahead - do not be afraid to build your future!
Answer these 10 personal questions:
- Are people selfish or have you not yet found an effective way to influence people?
- Which is better: to risk or regret the missed opportunities?
- What are you more worried about: doing things right or doing the right things?
- What should not you pay attention to, and what is really important?
- Is it worth pursuing the time and trying to do everything in time or to let go of things and live in your rhythm?
- Do you think that others are right that they are more talented, more fortunate, more resolute than you, or are you (yet) a diamond unbounded?
- What do you choose: to spend your time, fill the bumps or, finally, consciously create a happy life?
- What will you choose: to live through thorns to the stars (and this is not a fact) or to learn how to think effectively?
- What personal barriers to your life-filled life do you need to be eliminated?
- Who or what can help you become more successful in love, career, finances?