Why is this happening? After all, most recently you together celebrated all birthdays, weddings and other holidays, went to noisy parties, and simply, to visit each other. You supported each other's friends in the merry and sad moments of life. You felt good, warm and comfortable together, because you realized that you are each other. You were friends for years, and your friendship was reinforced by common interests, memories and impressions.
But there are big changes in your life. You are waiting for the baby and want to share your long-awaited happiness with all the white light! You want to tell your friends about your impressions, tell them about the coming changes in your life. And so, you tell them about your "so interesting situation". Often the reaction is absolutely unpredictable, not the way you expected.
Do not worry! Even you still have a hard time getting used to your new state, and what can you say about your friends! Especially if they themselves do not have children, they feel tense in your society. Friends just do not know how to behave with you, that's why they stop inviting you to visit, to walk, to meetings, and so on. They start to fear that they will say something wrong, they will not do what they need, they will harm you, they will overtake you ...
In this situation, you do not need to be silent and let everything go. You will conceal an offense, and the distance between you and your friends will increase more and more. Ask them directly what is the reason for their separation. If these are really fears for your well-being, then tell your friends that they do not need to take responsibility for your condition. Explain that you and your child are responsible, and let your friends only answer for your good mood.
A slightly different situation develops with those friends who already have children. Prepare yourself for the fact that they throw you a lot of advice, memories and impressions. They will seek to crush you, such an inexperienced and yet unknowing, in their opinion, their authority. They will not ask if you need this? Do you want to be treated like this?
Of course, you will be annoyed by such authoritarianism. But let's see what moves these advisers? And they are motivated by care for you and your future baby. They really want to help you and protect you from possible problems and mistakes that they encountered. Do not let you step on the same rake. So it turns out that the love and care of friends can be perceived by you "in bayonets."
The Council in this situation can be only one: when the "adviser" overstrains the stick, gently tell him that you really appreciate everything he says to you, but at the moment you do not have the desire to talk on this topic and when you need help, you it must be consulted.
With very "neglected" cases, when the adviser turns out to be inadequate and continues to act on your nerves with his instructions, although you told him that you do not want to talk about it now, you have to act tough. In response to the flow of advice, say firmly: "Of course, thank you very much for the advice, but I want (I prefer, I can) solve this issue without outside help (with my husband)." Most likely, after such a statement you will be offended and will be pouting for a while. Take it easy. They will not always be offended, but they will understand that you are already an adult girl, who is able to decide for herself how and in what situations she should act.
And if it does not help ... Well, then seriously, seriously, do you really need such friends?