It is known that children are the flowers of life. However, unfortunately, not everyone shares this opinion. Especially men. This attitude towards children can lead to a gap. That's why many women are trying to understand why men do not like children.
In fact, there are many answers to the question: why a man does not like children. Firstly, it is worth noting that each person is affected by the psychological atmosphere in which he grew up. Perhaps, the man left unpleasant memories from his childhood, which are the cause of such an attitude. For example, when a young man was young, he had a younger brother or sister, whom parents gave all the love and care, ceasing to give the older child due attention. Accordingly, he had the impression that he was not loved. And in spite of the fact that he has long grown up, in the subconscious, he has postponed the fact that little children will always love more than him. He may even himself not realizing simply to be jealous of his beloved woman to the child, for fear that he will lose her attention, as it once happened to his parents.
Men's fears
It also happens that the representatives of the stronger sex do not like toddlers, because they simply feel that they can not take responsibility for their life, development and much more. Often, this happens when young people grow up in single-parent families or next to dysfunctional fathers. Of course, not always men start to fear children. It also happens that a guy who has become accustomed from childhood to be responsible for his loved ones and even to protect them, very early becomes ready to take responsibility for his own child. But cases are also frequent where young people see their own fathers in themselves and believe that they too will not be able to give their children anything good. In this case, their dislike for children is guided solely by their own fear and a sense of incompetence. However, it should be noted that such fears arise not only among those who grew up in dysfunctional families. There are many cases when young people are simply not ready to take any responsibility. It is then that any mention of children makes them angry and irritated. Such guys just think that the girl tries to impose on him a child, taking away his freedom, personal space and the ability to do what he wants. In this case, a man simply should not only physically, but also psychologically become mature. Often, guys need more time to enjoy freedom from any obligations and learn to give up certain desires. In women, motherhood is inherent in nature, so it is easier for them to make similar "sacrifices" for the sake of the child.
Adequacy test
But it is worth remembering that a person with a normal psyche and an adequate perception of the world can be annoyed by the child, but at the same time do not cause attacks of hatred and aggression. If you notice such a manifestation of character for a young person, then you need to think about how adequate it is. Moreover, if you paid attention to the fact that the guy not only says unpleasant things about children, but also threatens with physical violence. Such behavior is completely unacceptable for a normal person, because consciously or subconsciously in an adequate psyche there is a desire to protect the weak or at least treat them neutrally, rather than inflict pain and mock. Therefore, if you understand that a young person sees in children the main enemies and irritants, think about whether he will be able to become a normal father to your child.
Fortunately, such representatives of the stronger sex is not enough. Basically, all men cope with the dislike of the kids when they grow up and get rid of the subconscious desire to remain children who do not need to be responsible for anything. Often, this happens when a guy has his own son or daughter, in which he sees himself. Then his irritation changes in the opposite direction, turning into a feeling of boundless tenderness and love.