This issue does not arise accidentally when you retire. There are mixed feelings. Of course, it pleases. After all, there will be a lot of free time to devote to his favorite business, to find new interests, to take personal life, to take care of one's health. But at the same time there is excitement and anxiety that certain problems will appear. What will life be like in retirement? Is there enough money? Would not it be boring to live without colleagues? And many more such questions. But it's easy to get rid of stress by just three steps. They are very simple:
First step
Make a plan for your future life. And it should be planned in advance. Think, what future do you imagine? Do not rely on fate or chance. Of course, financial planning will be for you the most important problem. To solve it it is necessary first of all, when there are thoughts about worthy life on pension.
But this question is not the only one that must be seriously considered in advance. Present your plans for the future to your husband or relatives. Think together about how you will live and where, relying on your wealth.
Based on the real budget, be sure to think about how relationships with loved ones can change. Would you like to spend more time with them? How can your way of life change? What specific and interesting business for you will do? Can you independently maintain your health? As a rule, in the retirement age appears the bulk of diseases.
Second step
Women 50-55 years old fear that retirement will certainly affect the mental and emotional spheres. Physical activity will decrease, new diseases will appear. Yes, it can happen. So try not to fall out of the familiar surroundings. Thinking that you have lost value for society, you will experience depression. Do not sever the communication with former colleagues and workmates. And then you will not experience a feeling of isolation from the society of people and heavy loneliness.
From any situation there is a way out. If you miss the friends with whom you have worked for many years, then start keeping in touch with them. Do everything to make new friends. Engage in expanding the circle of communication. Do not just despair, loneliness and depression immediately overtake you.
Third step
More care for your personal needs. Do not be afraid to refuse even the closest people. Do not feel guilty. This is your life, you do not owe anything to anyone. Many retirees devote all their time to children and grandchildren. Often, women do not retire, because they are trying to materially help the family of their child or take care of all the small grandsons, giving the children the opportunity to work or rest more. What are these sacrifices for?
Of course, there are very difficult life circumstances that do not give a choice. But in most cases, assistance is first seen as a pleasant attention, and then will be claimed as mandatory. The problems of children and grandchildren will grow. And you will have to decide them as a matter of course. Their plans for life will have to be postponed indefinitely. But there is a way out. Simply, you just need to clarify the relationship and say what you will do and what not. Help them find alternatives to your help. They need to know the time limit that will be given to the education of grandchildren. Share the fulfillment of everyday affairs between members of your large family. Let them know that you have the full right to your private life, your studies and interests. Do not put your shoulders under the problems of adults, even if they are your children.
By learning to plan and control your life, you will never depend on external circumstances and surrounding people. You will live by your plans, opportunities and interests.
To enjoy your well-deserved rest is your right! Do your favorite activities, maintain health and enjoy every day a well-deserved retirement.