Thus, once you can keep the hatred, then love can also be preserved. But how to keep the love of a man?
Let's first find some guidance in the feelings we are experiencing. I think that the difference between love and love for many is experienced by own experience and the realization that not every love changes over time into true love is present.
So let's start with falling in love.
On the ground, most likely, there is no person who has never fallen in love. The state is familiar to everyone: poets sung by writers described, propagandized by musicians and even, by scientists and experimenters, explored. Therefore, I will not repeat myself, but I will propose a slightly unusual, for all of us, point of view. Let us now look at love as a kind of advance payment that is given to us by nature or by God or the World or the Universe or Life, or maybe by Love, and we understand how to preserve the love of a man.
Any of us, both women and men, is characterized by an attraction to the search, as previously said, of a narrowed or destined person. Now we say the word "ideal". (And, why not? Let it be our "ideal partner"). So, scientists came to the decision that in the role of the ideal companion of the whole life, at least 10 000 people are suitable for us. Hence, the possibility that we have seen each other or even live with the "ideal partner for us" is quite high, so we need to try to keep love peasant.
Question: Then why are divorces so frequent? Why a man who yesterday swore in immortal love, today can cause hatred?
The fact that "he was before another" was in the state of love we felt. Falling in love is an indicator of whether your favorite person can become your ideal partner. However, falling in love is really an advance, a colorful outburst of feelings and emotions, which shows the very best in a person. This is a kind of stress for our mind and body. In the system of perception so vivid impressions, experiences, we can not exist long. Time passes and everything will rise to "its own" and .... this advance has already been spent. But now you know about your partner very much and all the best that is in it. Your partner, in turn, also managed to find out your best qualities. And now comes the time or love, which you need to create (together) or the habit or parting.
What is Love and why should it be created and preserved?
Love is a unique ability to accept another person as yourself at the level of emotions, body, consciousness. I emphasize: Accept yourself as the most different. How often, looking in the mirror, do we admire the way we look? How often do we feel ourselves to be real winners in this life? How often are we proud of our achievements?
Often the issue of breaking the relationship between, at first glance, loving each other is that we can not accept and love ourselves. If I can not accept myself, if I blame, condemn, angry with myself, then how can I accept another person, how then can I keep love? Therefore. If you feel that, with a loved one, the relationship gradually loses its role, that boredom and fatigue come to the place of joy from encounter and communication, get busy with yourself.
Discover the boundaries of your life, where you feel yourself not quite confident. Look at what you would like to change in your appearance, in yourself. Do not forget: your partner is your image, your mirror. And if you are not always happy with his behavior, habits, his attitude towards you - this means that you do not like yourself. Do not be afraid to change, but you do not have to change for someone, but just to feel more comfortable and confident.
Do not be afraid of change. Remember the school, how tedious the lesson dragged on and how quickly the change came to an end. How many things could you do in a short 10-15 minutes: quarrel and make friends, rewrite homework, win a race, accept a declaration of love, win tic-tac-toe, run ... and the list goes on forever. So why are we so afraid of change today? What has changed, why is the boring "lesson" typical - and the quick change has become a "black band"?
So: Feelings of falling in love - this is the period when in a person all of its most positive traits appear. In the aftermath, they do not disappear anywhere, they simply begin to "merge with the general background" for us and it is at such a moment that we are obliged to understand what we really want. Do we strive to be with this person throughout life and to build new relationships together while preserving the love of the man and realizing that not everything will be smooth in this way, we want the relationship to become a habit or can, for reasonable consideration, Is it better to leave?
Probably all three options, but do not think that there are only them. Reality gives us a much larger number of options. And any path chosen by you for further development of relations is quite normal. However, suppose you preferred love, then, mainly, look at your partner as your own reflection. Do not forget that if you do not like something in your chosen one, you need to look into yourself and see this property in yourself. To see and necessarily change. Since in order to preserve the love of a man, one must constantly change. Next, do not be afraid of change and change, each change is a new stage in the development of relations, their new property.
And finally: love yourself, accept yourself as you are. Accept and love yourself completely any. We are all ordinary people, which means that we have every right to make mistakes. Finally, we are far from being Gods, we are only striving to become a little closer to them, and even the Gods themselves, if we believe the ancient sages sometimes made mistakes and made the wrong choice.