- Because he was ashamed.
- Because he felt guilty.
- Because he was afraid. Knowing that they will not believe him.
Hardly in our country the situation is much better, we simply did not conduct such studies. Do not think that it passes for the child without a trace, even if it is very small to understand what was done to it. This memory will never disappear and after a while he will understand everything. Do not think that among your friends and acquaintances there can not be perverts - you do not know this for sure, because usually they look like well-bred, educated, normal people. Remember: such people can also be among doctors, teachers, coaches, supervisors, etc. - all those who work in children's institutions.
How to protect the child and at the same time do not sow distrust in his soul to all people in general?
From the first years of life, accustom the baby to the fact that his body belongs only to him and no one has the right to touch him without the permission of the baby. Do not kiss or press the child if he does not want it at that moment. And never allow this to be done by other people and relatives, including grandmothers, grandfathers, etc ..
Explain that almost none of the familiar and unfamiliar adults want the child to be evil. "Bad" is very little and not necessarily that the child will meet them. But it is impossible to know the "bad", because they look like "good." Therefore, just in case, one can not go anywhere with anyone except with the permission of the parents.
Tell the child how the "bad" lure children: snacks and toys; a promise to show something interesting - puppies, kittens, cartoons, an interesting game on the computer, etc .; requests for help; references to parents ("I was sent to you by my mother ...").
Do not tell details about what the "bad" can do to a child, but say that it's very scary. If the child, without asking permission, went from the yard, to neighbors, to friends - the punishment should be strict: you should permanently forbid his walks (or meetings with friends, games, cartoons, etc.). The connivance in this matter will respond to you with terrible experiences when the child reaches adolescence and you do not know where he is, with whom ...
And most importantly: do everything possible for the child to trust you. The child's stories about himself and about the events in his life will help you determine how much the child adapts to different situations and can protect himself. Only in this way you can find out if there are perverts among his entourage and take measures to protect him. Therefore, no matter how busy you are, you should always listen to the child if he wants to tell you something. And if your child does not need to talk about his, then you yourself should call him to talk. The best way is to tell a story from your childhood or from the childhood of your family or friends. This is very interesting for children: "it manifests itself when my mother (my father) was as small as I, and terrible, unpleasant, funny stories also happened to them!".
Keep in mind: if the child does not have contact with the parents, then he is looking for it from other people and outside the home.
So, the goal of "safe" education is to instill in the child the certainty that if he adheres to certain rules of behavior, he will not get into trouble, and if there is a dangerous situation, he will find a way out of it, because parents taught him how to do it .