Restoring friendly relations, you can not only heal the soul, but also to some extent improve the quality of life. Psychologists conducted the research and concluded that friendship to women helps to reduce stress, and this allows them to feel happier even more. By sharing with a friend, we share joy with her, and also experience adversity. Therefore, if you have a real friendship, then you must be ready to forgive and ask for forgiveness, after which you will again become for your girlfriend support in all the wonders and joys of life. But what to do if you do not know where to start, to make peace with a friend, without humiliating yourself, and overcoming her resentment. How to do it right, we will teach you now.
To reconciliation it is necessary to go successively
Well, let's say that you do not know or can not understand, because of why your girlfriend has offended you. You do not know why she is angry with you, although this is so noticeable. First, try to figure it out on your own. Analyze each of your actions, the step that you did or said before, as you started to notice the anger from your girlfriend. Maybe remember that you said something, which caused disappointment and anger in your friend.
The next step to reconciliation is talking with a friend, it does not matter whether you could figure out the reasons for her anger and resentment or not. Call the girlfriend and ask her about the meeting, tell her that you want to discuss the incident, moreover, you want to find ways that will help restore friendship. If you can not call for some reason, well, there you feel uncomfortable, do not know what to say, then write her a letter and send it by e-mail. Schedule a meeting in a public place, you can, for example, meet in a cafe or in a park. Meeting in a neutral territory will create an unnatural situation that will help relieve tension.
When you meet immediately tell your friend how important it is for you to meet. If your friend has confidence that friendship with you is valuable, then it's much easier to start a difficult conversation and establish a friendly tone. If at the beginning of a difficult conversation you mention learning the feelings, then the result of this conversation will be more successful. If you calculate that your friendship has worsened, then admit your guilt. Excuse your misstep. Even if you think that your friend is also to blame for your quarrel, you still take responsibility for yourself. At the present time, the most important thing for both of you is reconciliation and the resumption of former relations, so do not ask which of you is more to blame for this situation.
Of course, it's not that easy to take all the blame for the missteps that have occurred, especially if you want to prove yourself right. However, it is worth considering that your friendship is at stake and you want to preserve it. If this is so, then your pride will have to be "hidden" until better times!
But what to do if a friend sincerely believes that it is precisely that you have quarreled because of a quarrel between you and how to make her reconcile? In this case, throughout the conversation, use "I - sayings". Ie, instead of "you ..." say "I believe", "I feel", "I want" or "I see". If you say "you ...", then the girlfriend can take a defensive position. And, speaking of her feelings and herself, the interlocutor will not notice in the conversation the desire to blame her for the break that happened.
Well, you talked to her and found a compromise, now you need to give your girlfriend time to get away from hurt. It is not necessary to rush it and think about what it would be like to make peace with a spy friend as soon as possible. You have already done a lot, now the choice is for your girlfriend, and you only have to wait for the final restoration of friendship.
Warnings and advice
Do not leave your girlfriend without your attention, even if she is still angry, continue to recognize her achievements, make gifts, for example, to a birthday or other occasion. With your attention, you will unduly show that you still love her.
Another important point is that while you do not spread rumors in a quarrel, do not try to win over to your side common friends and acquaintances. Of course, this behavior may seem tempting, because you can show your friend that it is she who is wrong, but you will only lose all your friends, so you better reject this method immediately. You need to fight for your friendship, so do not let small grievances prevent the most important in your friendship. Sometimes, in order to restore friendships, we must make certain sacrifices. If you are not ready or you can not sacrifice something for the sake of a friend, then most likely your friendship is not real. Have patience, because you have to wait until the relationship will return to the same channel as they were before the quarrel. How to finally reconcile with her friend will tell only time. Restoring friendship requires the assurance of honesty, courage and understanding.
If you make the first step to reconciliation, then you will show that you appreciate the friendship that was between you and want to completely restore the friendship lost because of the quarrel.