This question has been asked a lot by the last century and it is not accidental. Previously, such questions did not arise, everything was determined and decided. Life in the modern world is a different matter where everyone aspires to independence, wants to stand out from the crowd, show his individuality. How not to get lost in this world. Let's consider some recommendations.
Before the marriage, it is desirable to settle immediately everyday problems. According to sociological surveys, family life gives a break on the basis of everyday problems. Therefore, it is most correct to decide who is responsible for what in the family. For example, you can agree that the correct start will be if the wife assumes responsibilities for the house, everyday small cleaning in the apartment, cooking. For the husband, it is more appropriate to take on the general cleaning, washing of your socks, washing (at least sometimes) dishes, work on the household. When a person knows what he is responsible for and what he should do, he is disciplined. Many married women complain about their husbands that he does not do anything at home. It's right, and why he will do it if you did not demand it from him for thirty years. But do not go too far with the rules and the exact implementation of all the rules and arrangements. The hour is not even as all this can get boring and the husband or wife refuses to turn into a robot.
If the beginning of family life comes only from love feelings, then most likely your family ship will crash in the near future, since love is not strange, it can come and go and even come back. If you start marriages, as soon as you have a new feeling and break them, as soon as it cools, then gradually you will become an egoist alone. Love feelings in the morning is a reward for helping in matters in the evening.
A separate topic should be touched on the joint conduct of holidays and meetings with friends. It's not easy for people to immediately adjust and give up their old life: drinking with friends about and without, disappearing in the garage on weekends, aimlessly spending time visiting shops just like that. Gradually, the desire and ability to spend time as I want, will come to naught. Over time, people, as they say, "get used to each other", so disagreements over the outside of family pastime will come to naught.
The correct beginning does not mean "sawing" of the husband or wife, but where is the care of her or about him? "Saw" - we understand as a repetition of the same with the goal that a person will perform the action we need. But not always it leads to the desired result. More often it negatively adjusts the partner in relation to you. The experience of generations shows that husbands and wives who managed to influence their other half during their lifetime sought various ways of motivating them to encourage their spouses to act, most often in this case the reward works much better than punishment. This truth can be repeated again and again, but not all couples are ready to recognize what is happening in their family. More time should be given to discussing the problem. Do not connect to the solution of the problem of third-party people, even close relatives such as: mom, dad, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, etc. .. Connecting these people can only harm your attitude.
How can you start a family life? This question will be asked many more couples, and probably will be able to answer only after a long period of time, and then not all, but only those who could lead a family ship in the troubled waters of family life.