They say that we, the young ladies, are so envious and pragmatic that at the first encounter with competition or difficulties they are ready to grab the best friend in the hair, and turn eternal friendship into an equally selfless enmity. It is worthwhile to figure out where such conversations come from, what is true in them, and what is a lie. So, the myths about female friendship.
Surely in your environment there are more than a dozen ladies of all ages who are friends from school times, regardless of distances, changing hobbies and family composition. So what's the deal?
We women are much more emotional and open than men. Therefore, sometimes with an occasional acquaintance we start out in revelations, and that "reciprocates" - is sincerely ready to help. But as soon as the problem is solved - yesterday's friends part. Why? Yes, because they were not friends. They simply supported each other in a difficult moment.
The second myth about female friendship was invented by men. When a man shares with someone sore, it is important to him specific help, best of all - effective. In their opinion, a friend should not talk, but it's up to him. We, women, are interested in the opposite. We do not need emotional support: that was, to whom to utter, to cry, with whom together poahat-poahat. We will do this later, having received in confirmation that everything is right.
Since childhood we have been compared with other neighbor children, classmates, classmates, accustoming to constant competition and looking back at others. Put more successful opponent "in place", we also often try the simplest way - pointing out his shortcomings. As a result, we, growing up, consider such relations to be completely normal. So we communicate every day, checking the fortress of the occupied position. Only this friendship has no relation to friendship.
How often do you hear: "What kind of girl are you to me if you do not go with me to the courses of ikebana"! It is understood that you should have the same hobbies, otherwise there is no need to be friends! And if nobody has doubts about the need to have common interests, then the misconception about the fact that a whole world should be divided with a friend all the time is one of the most harmful. We are all different and communicate much more interesting not with our own reflection, but with another person who has his own views, beliefs, hobbies.
The "realness" of friendship is just checked by the extent to which two people are free in it, to be themselves, and not faded copies of each other. Unfortunately it's true. Our emotionality often outweighs common sense, and for the sake of red words we can easily "sell" a girlfriend. And without any malicious intent, but only because we do not think about the fact that the information we transmit to a third party can somehow harm, offend or even offend it. The second reason for this behavior is the desire to achieve greater intimacy in a relationship for someone else's account. Like, you see, to what degree of sincerity I've come to you, I've uncovered all the secrets. But these were not your secrets ... In order not to be a victim and distributor of gossip, be attentive to who and what secrets you trust.
Communication with women on average gives more pleasure to all people, regardless of gender. And it determines the degree of loneliness - that is, the more a person is friends with women, the less he feels left. Of course, it's not about sexual, but about social communication. Communication with women is a kind of "elixir", which "charges" with its energy many people.