The love of a woman for a married man is one of the most popular subjects both in life and in literature. This plot is the cause of many torments and involves more and more participants in these torments. But why is it so popular? What attracts women to married men?
First, we need to divide two principal options: when a married man is chosen by an unmarried woman with the intent to marry him in the future, and when he became interested in a married woman as a possible lover.
For an unmarried woman, the first thing that is important in a married man: he is not sloven and does not exude the inherent freedom inherent in bachelors. A married man always looks (or is?) More tamed and predictable. Of course, this can not attract women, who all are eager to have total control over others and the situation as a whole.
Obviously, the search for a predictable man for the role of a future husband is made unconsciously. Just a woman's skin feels such, as they say, "reliable" people. Women who are aware of this desire - usually also understand that it is actually easier to tame the "wild" (idle) man himself than to beat him off from his opponent and then for a long time (and sometimes unsuccessfully) to fight the consequences of alien training.
Another nuance: the average age of married men is greater than that of bachelors. This means that they (again, on average) are more successful in life - simply because of their age. Well, it's not a sin to have a sin with a man. Of course, these nuances are purely statistical.
Completely different goals for a woman who has already found a husband for her, but now she has taken care of finding a lover. (Of course, this search also happens unconsciously: simply, when the breadwinner for the family is already there, more ancient sexual instincts awake).
Of course, the lover should also be quite predictable, because the owner's own instincts of woman do not extend to any lesser extent than to her husband. So even in this way a married man has certain advantages. But tame - still not the most key requirement for a lover.
More importantly, a married man more values the possibility of sex on the side. I do not have much to lose to an unmarried lover - he just would not get a face off of my husband. He is quite easy and free to perceive a relationship, not particularly punctual and careful.
But a married man has something to lose. He, just like his married partner, usually wants to save his marriage - and this gives the woman guarantees that they will both equally care for the relationship itself and their secret.
But all these arguments do not reveal the main reason for the attractiveness of married men for most women. And the thing is that they are not hungry for sex and feminine attention. They see the woman every day in front of her, and the (to put it mildly) female difficulties are still fresh in their memory. Therefore, married men usually look at women not with obvious interest, but with a lot of vigilance and a certain indifference. Well and by such a call few people can go quietly: "How is it, he has not yet admired me, so incredibly chic and wonderful ?!"