If a man offended a woman, who should be the first to tolerate?

Alas, the relationship often presents us with not only good memories, but also all sorts of troubles. Quarrels occur both at the initial stage of the relationship, and in the held pairs. The reason for this is usually the reluctance of one or both sides to compromise, to reckon with the opinion of the second half, to solve problems peacefully. But, as they say, the darlings are being scolded - only they are amused, because as a result we start listening to each other and in every possible way try to avoid negative emotions. In today's world, according to statistics, women are the provocateur of quarrels more often, because we are creatures that are contradictory and inclined to exaggeration, thinking after we have accomplished something. Women, in most cases, are controlled by emotions, and not by reason, and therefore men are much more likely than we think to forgive us, referring to the fact that such "women" are by nature, and nothing can be done about it, it only remains to accept. But if a man offended a woman, who should be the first to tolerate? After all, they, peasants, from that very nature, are defenders and breadwinners, which means, logically, we must protect and feed, even if they are offended. Well, let's try to figure it out.

First, it is worth understanding the cause of the quarrel. After all, if a man offended a woman, then for this there are certain prerequisites. Situations in which you can be unflattering favorite, a lot. But are you sure that she did not provoke the offender herself? Perhaps he was patient, while you ran around the apartment with hysterics, showered him with obscene expressions and claims, and at one point blew up, shouted: "Dura!" And left the room? Unfortunately, and, fortunately, we live at a time when women are no longer treated as beings who can be forgiven, and we ourselves are to blame for this. Believe me, if you are the first to offend a man, and a man offended you in return, then he will not be the first to be reconciled, and he will not feel guilty even if the reason for your hysteria is just the same. Try to understand yourself what exactly does not suit you, and talk to your man first, apologize, and try to calmly and without expressing to explain to him what exactly in his behavior does not suit you, ask from now on, in order to avoid conflicts, do not do so. If he still reacts violently to your claims and begins to raise his voice, then here you have three options: the first - leave everything as is, and try to be less demanding; the second is to get away from him, since for you the subject of discussion is really important, but your MCH does not want to change the situation; the third - to agree with a man that you, for example, do this and that, and he does not do it, or vice versa. Remember that a man is a head, and a woman is a neck, so sometimes it is better to first make concessions and apologize than to torment yourself and exhaust your own nerves.

If a man offends a woman - who should be the first to tolerate? There is an opinion that if a man offends a woman, then he should not be the first to be reconciled, because as comrades or he himself can count him a rag and henpecked. I want to note right away that this opinion exists among either conservative families of the Far East and Third World countries, or among the insecure and complexed men of senior school and adolescence. Mature, conscious and confident men with a good standing in society have always respected and respected their women. Because these same women are their muse, due to which they, that is, men, have something at the moment. And if the man in something was wrong, offended his passion and realizes it, then he must apologize. If your young man is afraid to seem weak, showing respect for a woman, then you should ask him to set priorities in the matter of what is more important - the opinion of other people, or the relationship with you. If he chooses the first, then you need to seriously think about whether it's love. After all, relationships are built, first of all, on mutual respect, but in this case it does not smell. If your second half chooses the second option, then talk to him about how he would feel, do it with you. Try to explain to him that you must respect each other and be able to recognize mistakes and make compromises. Moreover, if he apologizes to you when it really is necessary, then first of all, your respect and confidence in him will deserve, and this is usually the most important for men. But, as you know, in this situation, in order to talk about this, you will have to raise the white flag first.

If a man has offended a woman, and a woman is a man, and it is not clear who should be the first to tolerate, I personally advise to begin to understand what the result is that the parties want to get. After all, from any quarrel we draw some lessons and conclusions. BUT! A woman at all times was responsible for peace and comfort in the house. If you want to re-educate your man, make him your "genie", performing any desires, then here you do not have luck for two reasons: first - people can not be changed, your man has already taken place as a person, and you can, of course , to correct some of its qualities to your advantage, but not by such general methods, and not always your works will bring the result; the second - we after all love people not only for their positive qualities, but also for their shortcomings, and even if, suppose you still re-educated a man, and he brings you slippers and coffee in bed in the mornings, how long will it take you pleasure? Most likely, such a faithful "muzhchinka" will simply bother you, he will not make his own decisions, and from your "stone wall" will turn into a creature in need of your protection, and you will leave him in search of a "real man". But this is only in theory. Just remember that more depends on you than you think. Try to keep the balance in a pair, and for this you sometimes need to step over yourself, because relationships are not built on selfishness. All successful women admit that at some point in life their personal relationships were cracking, they had to give in order to preserve what they have. Be wise and everything will be fine.

And since there was such a situation, if a man offended a woman, then the question: "Who should be the first to tolerate" should not at all stand, if there is a tender affection and love between them - they must together try to make amends all their conflicts, whoever was their culprit .