What's happening?
The more a person is younger, the more difficult it is for him to assert himself. At school, few can boast of real achievements: a published book, bought with money by a car, a diploma with distinction ... Here it seems to many that the only way out is to start mocking other people. It's a stupid assurance - if you humiliate others, then against their background you seem stronger. Anyone who appeared at that moment to be a suitable person can take a good look at the sneers. That is vulnerable. So what if you are humiliated?
Their weapons.
"Footsteps"
The most common method of bullying is aggression. Ways can be a heap: from insults in the company to real beatings in the backyard. The main rule: do not show your weakness, cry or attack in response.
It is better to address those people who before you were good to you. Calmly ask them if you have done them something bad and why they behave like a herd, adjusting to the opinion of several people. This can help, because alone it is much more difficult to cope with problems, especially if you are humiliated. But if it went very far, do not be silent and do not be afraid to talk to your parents. This is not misunderstanding, but the desire to discuss the situation in an adult way and find a way out - and he always is, do not doubt. Maybe on the family council you decide that you'd better change schools than try at your own nerves to teach the enemies the rules of a good tone or to humiliate others in response.
"Boycott"
Their weapons are silence. Even the most loyal friends stop talking to you, a close friend does not answer your calls, and it seems that all the most important passes you by. You are not humiliated, but simply ignored. Of course, this is a very moral pressure, but do not worry much. Remember one simple thing: a boycott is a short-term weapon and, like any mockery, looks attractive only as long as both sides participate in it. That is, while you do not care. But there are enough pleasant lessons in the world without chattering with this pompous group of ex-friends! Instead of spending energy on trying to talk the silent, read books: this is more interesting, and will give them a perfect click on the nose.
"Yellow press".
It seems that the whole university does nothing but discuss every step you take, embellishing it with fictions. Here you need a way of celebrities who have to listen to themselves and not like that. It makes no sense to justify yourself - you are not guilty of anything, and if people have nothing to talk about, then it's only their problems, and not yours, are they? Gossip is usually resorted to by people with a very good imagination - and with a very boring life. And by the way, this is a good test. If your best friend believed other people's dirty tales, without even asking you if it was really so, maybe she was never really dedicated to you?
Use it
Everything that happens to us is a great way to learn something new, jump to the next level, as in a computer game. If you are bullied - this is not a reason to be sad - look for bonuses.
Communicate. Ok, here you are rejected. But have not you forgotten that almost seven billion people live on the planet? Do not limit yourself to the world of your class, expand the boundaries: meet new people, go to the courses, enter the fan club of your favorite group or dance group. Stop wasting your energy on people who do not want to communicate with you and who humiliate you - and quickly forget about you (it's not interesting to scoff at someone who does not even notice attacks from outside). Believe me, you'll forget them at about the same speed.
Gain strength.
In life, independence is useful. From the role of an outcast, you can get offended by the whole world - or find a point of support in yourself. How to proceed - it's up to you. But keep in mind that usually those that humiliate others are very weak people: they do not know how to act alone, and to feel themselves on a horse, they need a common sacrifice. And you have a chance to learn not to depend on someone else's support. After all, you do not get worse or better from the assessments of others - you are always you. And as soon as you understand this, the experiences in the style of "what they think about me" you simply will not remain - which means that life will become much easier, believe me.
Understand people.
In a dangerous situation, the true characters are always revealed. A beautiful girl with whom you have always gossiped about fashion can turn away from you, barely noticing the decline in your rating among others and beginning to humiliate you. But a smart guy who has never been popular, suddenly can come to you and offer help: he knows what it's like to be a victim of the maturity of others. Well, why do you need friends who shake only for their own image, but they do not even see you? Learn to appreciate people for courage and kindness, and not for expensive brand jeans.
How not to get involved again.
Be able to be friends. Sometimes attacks do not arise from scratch, and it is worth considering whether you are a good friend yourself. If you are humiliated, you need to think about the reasons. It is not necessary to give everyone your notes on the first demand, but it's not so difficult to call a sick classmate and dictate the topic of the course. A trifle? No, this is care.
Appreciate yourself.
Uncertainty is felt from afar, but a man who respects himself, it is not so easy to offend. Instead of looking for weaknesses in yourself, learn to appreciate your advantages. And teach this to others, do not let yourself be humiliated.
Do not be part of the crowd.
Do not take part in bullying others. This is dishonest, ugly, and also demonstrates that you follow other people's instructions unconsciously. And what, you yourself are not able to figure out who is really bad here?
Know the enemy in person.
Leader. Each party has its own, but one thing unites them - the desire for power and the ability to convince others. Anyone can become their victim. The one who did not offer his help on time. The one who bought himself a beautiful dress. Or even the one that did nothing at all: for attacks, no special reasons are needed.
Svita. It's going around the leader sometimes because of the desire to be more popular, sometimes because of the fear that they will get.
The consonants. Most people do not like to participate in the persecution. But they continue to humiliate by inertia. Your friends are scared: by speaking out against them they can themselves become a victim. So they prefer to quietly watch the bullying, I think that nothing bad is done. But in fact, this behavior is the meanest. And if each of them was not afraid to speak out, there would be no persecution at all.