First, do not treat this as if gay is a diagnosis. Although many believe that non-traditional orientation is a mental illness, one should not see a potential client of a psychiatric hospital in their friend. You must do so, first of all, not to humiliate his dignity and not show that you are looking at a young man. Understand, if you found out about this one of the first, then the guy needs your support and understanding. If a person realizes that he is gay, at first it is very difficult for him to live with this thought. You understand that not all people will act condescendingly and understandingly towards your friend. Therefore, in the first place, he hopes for the support of close friends.
In order to understand how to act, if you find out that your friend is gay, try to put yourself in his place and think, what would you like to receive from your native people in such a difficult period of your life?
Of course, one never has to convince him that he is wrong or turn everything into a joke. If you understand that the young man is absolutely serious - take it for granted. Of course, you can calmly talk with him about the current situation, ask why he made such conclusions about his orientation and whether he is sure in his choice. But in no case do not show the negative and do not blame it. Remember that the attitude towards you has not changed in anything, but, perhaps, even on the contrary. Now, when a guy trusts you with such intimate things, you become a very close person, whom he hopes and fully trusts.
During this period, a young person may begin to have conflicts with his parents. This is not surprising, because the older generation was raised at other times and under other laws, so it is extremely difficult for them to recognize and realize the unconventional orientation of their son. To make it easier for a guy, you can try to talk with his parents. Of course, initially it is necessary to discuss this idea with your friend, in order not to aggravate the situation. Such conversations with parents are better if you have long been acquainted with them and are on good terms. Agree, no one will listen to someone else or an unpleasant person. But if you are almost like a member of your friend's family, then it's worth discussing everything with his mom and dad, calmly try to explain to them that the son did not do anything wrong and his choice does not affect the relationship in the family. Also try to explain to parents that they should not pay attention to public opinion and gossip. Everyone knows that gossiping and discussing those people who live in gray and uninteresting, so this behavior becomes for them the only entertainment. It is necessary to emphasize that your friend's parents are intelligent and educated people who will not sink to the opinion of such limited individuals and will not look to their son and refuse him because of those who are ready to discuss people about and without.
We must also emphasize that they, like any parents, of course, wish their child happiness, and he is happy, being just like that. Naturally, it's far from the fact that you will immediately convince them, but, perhaps, your words will work, and in due course relations in their family will be adjusted.
Whatever it was, you should constantly support your friend, but do not turn it into pity and custody. The fact that your friend is a homosexual does not at all cancel the notion that he, first of all, is still a man and should behave like a man. Therefore, do not suddenly start treating him like a girlfriend. Remember that his choice can not affect your relationship in any way. Many people think with stereotypes and start to believe that if a friend has declared that he is gay, then his behavior should also become stereotyped and completely similar to what gay movie geeks have. In fact, the behavior of a young person, most likely, nothing will change, you just have to get used to the fact that he likes guys, not girls. Of course, remember that when you are next to him, you automatically too attract attention and are subject to various discussions. Try never to dwell on this and not worry about it. A normal person will accept both your friend and you as you are, and what the various limited individuals think about, you should not care less. Remember that if you feel uncomfortable, then your friend will become enslaved and feel guilty before you. Or, on the contrary, get angry because of your behavior and take offense.
If your friend very hard experiences his own discovery of his own orientation, you can invite him to consult a psychologist. A specialist will always be able to help in resolving such problems and will advise the guy how to behave better, what to do if his parents and others do not understand him. But you can send a specialist to a specialist only when he really wants it. Do not push on your friend and do not try to drag him into the psychologist's office by deception or threats. Now you are his support and support. Therefore, first of all, she herself convinces herself that his sexual orientation is normal and acceptable for you. All people are very sensitive to falseness in loved ones, so if your friend understands that you are helping him through strength, he will be very hurt and hurt, he may close in himself or become depressed. And this is exactly what you should not admit in any case.