Sensitivity is not a vice. According to psychologists, the nervous system does not react negatively to sensitivity. A person, having strong nerves, copes with some difficulties, impressionable with others.
Sensitivity, if it is enhanced, can attract adult people to an impressionable person. Such a person can be compared with an antenna that captures the mood of the people around him. He sympathizes, empathizes, knows how to tune in to the emotions of his interlocutor and this causes an affinity for himself.
Beginning with childhood, he sleeps very little. It is very difficult to calm down if she cries. Having grown up, such a child is hard to bear failure - can spitefully break her toys and go into hysterics if something does not work out. The reason for all this is an increased sensitivity, transmitted to the body and soul.
Children, having a tendency to hysterics, absolutely do not tolerate pain. So, a visit to the doctor is a real hell for his parents. The hysteria can begin only because it is planned to go to the polyclinic. Well, if it comes to vaccinations, then in this case goes not only to parents, but also to medical staff. The child is crying from any scratch or splinter, not allowing to touch himself. Usually, his reactions to any little things are very stormy, one might say, not corresponding to the cause of indignation.
Impressive children are characterized by suspiciousness. It is worth asking such a child about how he feels, then he will answer that it is very bad that he has headaches, abdominal pain and a sore throat. However, this does not correspond to reality, only an ordinary common cold is.
Rebenokochen is very good at using his increased sensitivity as a subject of interest in cases when he does not want to do something, for example, not to go to school or not to fulfill some assignment. But, according to psychologists, such children's pain is really stronger, and the stressful situation worsens their health more seriously than other children.
There is one more feature that distinguishes them from others, this is the inclination to resentment. If someone curses, he immediately begins to cry. Therefore, one must always remember that under any circumstances it is necessary to refrain from shouting at the baby's address. These children are also very timid. Do not tell him that you do not need to be afraid, it's useless, because the edge of his fear is at the same level as the edge of pain. It will be better if such a child is accustomed to various circumstances and situations gradually, without pressure.
Unconsciously, it is possible to strengthen in the child such quality, as suspiciousness. Nestoit often regret it, while saying that he is a poor thing, poor thing, that he falls and gets hurt all the time. With this attitude, he, even if he wants, can not cope with his fear of any scratches and bruises.
Be relaxed in any situation and take its heightened sensitivity as a prerequisite. By this you will help him to overcome his emotions. After all, such a child feels much stronger than others not only physical pain, but also responds to the suggestion of others much more palpable. If to him something to forbid, he can fall into a rage and destroy everything, that will get under a hand. And such a slight prohibition of another child would not embarrass at all.
Such hypersensitive children are hard at reacting to even small failures, are long crying and angry. This is revealed both in the evaluation of others and in self-esteem. Such a child always has a bad opinion of himself. He has to do something, his patience quickly ends and he concludes that he does not know how to do anything. Noi is not in a hurry to work on himself, because he does not believe in his strength and does not make efforts to overcome difficulties. Because of this, interest in everything is very fast.
How to behave to parents
Parents should know that having noticed this behavior of the child in time, it is possible to avoid further aggravation of this condition. Pay attention to irritability and discontent of the child in order to avoid further serious problems. Only by its support, not by moral teachings, you will help the child to positively perceive himself and believe in oneself, to learn to respect oneself and others with respect. Thus, he can easily tame his impressiveness. Teach him to take himself in hand, despite the fact that this netak is easy, as it seems.
Here are some recommendations that psychologists give:
- Do not contact the child when you yourself are inflated - this you will give him a restless state, because even a baby feels your condition.
- Do not react to the fact that the child cries and yells. Do not try to bring his feelings with shouts or persuasion - in such situations he will not hear you.
- And do not lament when he sees that he has broken his knee. It will be better if you just finish the wound.
- Do not minimize the child's problems and do not say that nothing terrible has happened. Do not assure me that at school he will always be the first in everything.
- In all situations, keep calm if your child is nearby. Take him in hand, calm him down, but only when he does not mind, because there are children who do not like stress when they are touched.
- Restraint is required when communicating with the child. However, weasel will never be more. Solve the problem at a time when the child has hysterics, there is no point. Set this aside for later, when the situation is discharged.
- For the manifestation of courage in the victory over our own weakness it is necessary to praise and support.
- Welcome his achievements in all endeavors. If a child believes in himself, he can more easily overcome his negative emotions. Never forget that only you can help your child cope with increased sensitivity.