Harmonious relations in the family, primarily based on gratitude. In addition, gratitude is an important secret of family well-being. Prayer we express our gratitude to God for everything that he has done and does for us, and we often forget about gratitude to a loved one who gives us love and care. And in most cases, we do not even know how to express it.
First, let's see what gratitude is. So gratitude means "good to give", otherwise it means giving to a person, something that is good for him.
Every woman, no doubt, cares about her husband, as he knows how. Is it possible in this case to consider her care grateful? Perhaps to some extent you can. Here also there is a "but", since the husband, for his part, takes care of his wife. Most likely, in the family this is a distribution of duties, so the man takes such care as a matter of course, for example, the husband gives his wife a salary.
Therefore, in order for a family to develop harmonious relations between the wife and husband, there must be something different, apart from taking care of each other.
Here the question arises: what is important to any person, besides satisfying his vital needs?
Firstly, it is certainly a declaration of love. However, there is one problem here. The number of confessions for each person should be chosen strictly individually. Some people perceive everyday care as a sufficient manifestation of love and do not need additional words. Therefore, you will have to experience with your husband, in order to find out how many times a day (maybe a week or a month) you will need to admit to him in love, so that he feels comfortable.
Secondly, this is praise. It is not enough to respond to the care of her husband with her care. You should praise him, admit to him that you like what he does. It is very important to express recognition in words if you are interested in having your husband feel warm feelings comparable to those that were at the very beginning of your life's path as long as possible.
Any person likes to be praised, and for a man to recognize his dignity or praise, is almost an urgent need. At the very beginning, when he was courting you, your favor was for him a confession. Then, the fact that you agreed to marry him, too, was a recognition of his dignity. To be sure that he is the one and the best for you, he, after all this, needs constant recognition throughout his life.
When, for some reason, we do not praise our husbands, they begin to wither, like a tree without water. Which sometimes leads to the fact that husbands start to look left where they will be praised, to where they will feel "the best."
Another question arises, how often should I praise my husband? As a psychologist said, that for a man much praise does not happen. For us women this may seem somewhat ridiculous, but for a man this is so important that he can not always distinguish a compliment from crude flattery.
Praise is, of course, the most optimal of recognizing the dignity of her husband, so with her help you can express the value of his actions. However, not always our husbands do things that we like, and in recognition it needs it constantly, in this case, you can use a compliment instead of praise, for example, to cause in it a sense of pride for any natural qualities. For example: "You have such beautiful eyes" or "you have such strong hands".
The compliment of flattery is different in that we do it sincerely, admiring the qualities of a person at the same time, and flattery is mainly used when we want something for ourselves in return for admiration. For example, "Dear, we broke the socket, I wanted to call an electrician, but I thought that you can do it much better than he does. You have such golden hands! "
Summarize. Admit your husband in love, praise him daily, and he will be very careful about your marriage, and from now on he will try to do so that he deserves praise.
If the relationship in the family is backed by gratitude and built on mutual love, then the marriage will be lasting, and family life is more happy.