Preparing children for kindergarten is a responsible business. In our time, it is not so easy to identify the baby in a kindergarten (due to the banal lack of space, the queue can drag on for several years), but also in the one you want. But this is not the only problem. You can not just come and leave the baby in the group. Perhaps, the greatest stress for the child will be separation from mother (regular and for a fairly long time). And also getting into the team, which will have to join. Psychologists believe that after a year and a half, the absence of a mother nearby is not for the child as severe as before. First, because of sufficient physiological development. The kid is no longer so helpless, can show, explain and do much on his own. In addition, the child develops to an even greater extent, than before the thirst for knowledge of the world around him. And accordingly, it takes what is happening around, which means that the absence of the mother will pass less noticed.
But, on the other hand, vigilance towards strangers and unfamiliar will be present at least up to 2 - 3 years. Note that this feature is inherent in even adults, let alone talking about children.
To prepare children for kindergarten, some mothers resort to the help of a psychologist. Show the child to a specialist. With the help of simple game situations and tests, he will tell a lot about the psychological development of the baby. But you can manage on your own.
In any case, the baby needs psychological preparation for entering "into society". The child should be left for a while with close and well-known people: grandmother, older brothers and sisters, reliable friends, perhaps with a good nanny. While walking, try to attract your child to play with other children. He should get used to certain norms of behavior that will be needed in the kindergarten: do not select toys, do not offend the children and do not give yourself offense. Observe your child. Is he in contact with other children? Or is it left out? Frightened by strangers and clamped?
Go with the child to visit, especially in families where there are also small children. Just go to visit, and do not invite moms with children to her. Because at home, children feel. What is called "at ease", and the masters of the situation. This will be a kind of projection of the situation in the group. How does the baby react? Not a step away from my mother? Refuses to eat what the unfamiliar aunt offers? It is worthwhile. If the baby eats with joy, normally plays with other children, then everything is in order.
If you do not plan to give the child to the nursery, and he will get to the kindergarten at an older age, then some kind of early development group can become an excellent preparation. In such circles with children they are engaged in dancing, drawing, developing games. All these skills you can instill in the child and at home, but in the group he will communicate with other children and get used to other people's adults. At the same time, the baby will feel confident, because it is nearby.
Remember that every little man is individual. And even if yours stubbornly refuses to play with others, perhaps it's just a feature of his psyche. If the baby prefers to play alone, do not force. If for him - this is a comfortable state, there's nothing to be done. It is possible that the position of an outside observer is the most suitable and soon he himself will approach other children.
The main thing is not only psychological preparation of children, but also to instill the necessary skills. Namely: the ability to dress, to shoe yourself (with minimal help from adults), and so on. Often one can observe the following picture. Mom comes in the evening to take the child home, but the baby's boots are not on the right leg (right on the left, left on the right), the jacket is not buttoned up, the panties are dressed backwards, the scarf is randomly wrapped around the neck, and trails behind him on the floor. And the scarf is striped ... not his. Teach the child correctly and dress hurriedly enough. In doing so, try to pick up comfortable clothes (minimum of small buttons, narrow pantyhose, pile of strings, etc.).
Teach your child to go to the toilet correctly (pot or toilet depending on the age), observe the rules of personal hygiene. Wash hands before meals, after visiting the restroom, wash after sleep, wipe yourself with a towel, eat as neatly as possible.
It is very important, but incredibly difficult, to inspire the child that it is not necessary to imitate other children in everything. Otherwise, you will regularly observe, for example, the scene of licking of icicles taking the child home in the evening.
Try to explain the elementary rules of behavior to the child. You can not be capricious if you do not like something (food, play, etc.). You can not select toys, offend other children and stuff.
Try to make it as easy as possible for the child to stay in the kindergarten, especially if he does not want to stay there. Watch him and identify all the weaknesses. For example, if a child is hard at perceiving separation from his mother and home, think of some game situation, for example, that for a little boy this is a test, as for the hero of his favorite cartoon. And in the end, as a reward, Mom will come. Or leave the baby with some thing, for example, for a girl with cheap beads or a scarf. If the child is heavily and slowly dressed, make a small poster on which to draw (or paste, cut from the magazine) clothes in the order that they need to be worn. Stick it on the wall of the locker room or on the baby booth. Confuses the right and left shoes? Click on the pictures on the one and the other (explain that they should be on the outside of the foot). Observe, fantasize and try to help.
Of course, a good group educator will closely monitor the children, and give them maximum attention. But do not just rely on it, anything can happen, and the child will get into an embarrassing or unpleasant situation. After all, to monitor all the children at the same time, even an experienced teacher and nurse is simply not possible. Therefore, the process of preparing children for kindergarten is very important.