Secret to the whole world
The most innocuous kind of information distributed by "well-wishers" is rumors. Sometimes information about you can play to your advantage, intriguing colleagues, drawing attention to your person and improving the image. But, unfortunately, most often they misinform, cause anxiety or bewilderment. Rumors are characterized by inaccuracy and unreliability. Spreading them, people often use the words: "it seems", "maybe", "I'm unsure, but." However, he does not express any negative attitude to the "victim" of rumors, but simply shares what he heard from others. Soil is the lack of information. Even if you are not accustomed to frankness with strangers and prefer to work at work, rather than savoring the details of your personal life, you must occasionally satisfy the curiosity of others. Let them know about you the basic biographical information: about the family situation, the presence of children, interests, etc. Tell your colleagues about minor events in your life, and then you can keep silent about something more grandiose. No one even thinks about how little is known about your life.
Two sides of the same coin
Unlike rumors, gossip is a bright negative emotional color: gloating, condemning, indignation. No gossip arises from scratch, it always has a real information base. But, as is known, the transfer of word from mouth to mouth of any folklore product has the effect of a spoiled phone. If you are often gossiped about, this is an occasion to reflect on your behavior in the team. Some people are themselves to blame for spreading gossip about them. For example, excessive gullibility, the desire to boast of successes or complain about fate is forced to open to strangers. But usually you will not benefit from such a "confession", rather - on the contrary, your openness and trustfulness will become the basis for rumors.
It's all about your reaction
There are several ways to respond to gossip. One of them is to be silent. Its simplicity is that we do not have to do anything. At the same time, this is the most energy-intensive way of spending nerve cells. Your face must be impenetrable, so that not one of his muscles betray that you know about the existence of gossip. People crave spectacles, and if you let them know that "there will be no kin," they will quickly lose interest in rumors. Thus, it is better to react to gossip that is not capable of causing you any harm, except for a spoiled mood. If you can not remain calm while others around you are inclined to your last name, and you do not have problems with a sense of humor - joke. For example, get a circle of colleagues talking about what kind of bullshit is talking about you some people, and offer to laugh together about it. If it was possible to calculate who dissolves the gossip, use his gossipiness for their own purposes. After all, there are situations when it is worthwhile to launch a "duck" with the information opposite to the gossip, as rumors will lose all meaning and cease to carry a threat to you.