Men ... such strange creatures! It seems that we are all from the same planet, and individuals of the same kind (human), and sometimes it seems that they are completely different. And it's not about sex: primary or secondary. It's about thoughts, deeds, desires. What seems very strange to women, sometimes impermissible, surprising, incomprehensible, for men is quite natural and normal. Because of what is this happening? Why are we so different in our manifestation?
Ah, as we would like, probably, women, at least read the thoughts of men, eavesdrop on what they think, what they really want at heart. Perhaps, learn this information from the ladies, this would clarify a lot in the uneasy relations of the sexes. And, maybe, on the contrary, would make men even more mysterious for them. But, since it is physically impossible to get into the brain of anyone, it will be necessary to reflect a little.
What does a man really want? What are they dreaming about? What do you imagine an ideal companion and your life with it? In all this and many other things we have to deal with you.
Just want to warn fellow people on the floor: this is not an attempt to discredit men from the point of view of their sexual nature, it's just a desire to help women at least a little understand our motives and desires.
So, let's start in order.
1. As we know, all people have the needs of the first level (food, sleep, the continuation of the family) and the needs of the second level (self-realization, love, friendship). Men from this rule do not make exceptions, and therefore first of all for normal existence, men need food, no matter how banal it may sound. When a man comes home from work tired and hungry, the only thing to which all his thoughts come down is a hot delicious dinner. And it is better to provide them with a loved one, because if the needs of the first level are satisfied, you can proceed to the realization of the second, and there the feelings of the man to you will be fully utilized.
2. Men by their nature are eternal fighters, activists, getters. They earn money, take responsibility for solving complex issues, control situations on various fronts of life. Their life passes in a furious rhythm. But, despite all this visible bustle, they want them to have a home in which they can always return, and in which they will always wait. In his house, a man wants to escape from the worldly bustle and enjoy the tranquility of family life. That's why the male population of the planet so appreciates women who are able to maintain a favorable atmosphere in the house.
3. One more main desire, however skeptically women perceive it, is the desire to leave a trace behind. No matter how windy the young men are, they still want (even if they do not realize this in their account until a certain age) that they have children. And, it was WILL, the issue of education is not worth it.
4. In order to have children, they need to somehow start, so one of the main desires-instincts of men is the need for sex (in the eyes of women this desire seems to be the only one). And blind need, biological. Sex is necessary for a man, like air, water or food. If a man has not had sex for a long time, he becomes angry, irritable, aggressive, so it is better that there is no shortage.
5. A man is an ordinary person who is not alien to all life. He, as well as a woman, seeks to match his role in this world, i. E. wants to look powerful and impressive. Basically, male individuals try to follow their figure in terms of muscle growth. Some are engaged in different types of struggle. All this comes from the desire to assert itself.
6. From the ancients, apparently from primitive times, the instinct of struggle was laid in the man. At first it was a struggle for territory, then for a woman, later for power and so on. In small forms, this manifests itself in ordinary fights, in large and ingenious plans and in complex conclusions. But the essence of this does not change: the desire for struggle, often with the help of violence.
7. The fight, of course, is good, as a process, but the result is important to the man. He needs to get out of any struggle as a winner, feel like a hero, a savior of souls and destinies. Therefore, more often let your lover feel like your deliverer from all sorts of problems and misfortunes. He will feel himself capable of turning mountains, and having such a man next to you will become a real pleasure for you, women.
8. A separate point I want to note the desire of a man to surpass the intellect of a woman. That's why your loved one always has a need to understand advanced technology, to keep up with progress, to be able not only to understand some novelty, but also to explain it ... to a woman.
9. Another small weakness of men is the desire, by all means, to influence the course of events, to be the obvious cause of various changes. Any: family, love, workers, political and even ... historical. Every man feels himself a small, but very important center of the big universe. So they feel their main role in everything.
10. To be in society or over society. For males, the issue of leadership is acute from childhood. If the boy is not accepted by his peers, let alone offended by them, he is unlimitedly unhappy. In their youth they want to be the soul of the company, in youth - the boss, and so on ad infinitum. Few of them are aware of this, but the essence of this does not change. If a man has like-minded people, he feels himself to be a part of one community, and this tells him that in his desires he is not alone.
11. The need for women's affection, tenderness, caring. No matter how stern beast a man might appear to be in appearance, inside he is a little boy who wants to cuddle up to the woman's breast and feel necessary and loved. Men even more women need caress and care. Otherwise, what will they return to after their eternal debilitating battles and eternal worldly vanity?
12. Speaking of female / maternal affection, one can not ignore the father's authority. The boy must from childhood see before him the powerful figure of his father, his firm position, unbending willpower, in order to imagine what a real man must be, to be equal to him, to strive for an ideal. In general, the presence of authority is very important for a man, although this is rarely realized by us.
13. As in the life of any person, financial well-being is very important for a man. And not in terms of the subsistence minimum, but the more, the better. This is understandable, because if a man has good money, which he earns himself, he considers himself a fully held person.
14. The quest for adventure is one of the common desires of men. It does not matter what kind of adventure - everyone has their own ideas about this, most importantly, to play blood, seething adrenaline.
15. Based on the previous desire, one can also single out the desire for changes, discoveries, and other similar events. In general, they, fortunately, do not interfere with the usual way of life.
16. In the Middle Ages, the knights had a need to serve a high ideal. In the modern world, this phenomenon also takes place. Each man has a certain super-goal, to which he aspires through the thorns of life.
17. Despite the lofty ideals and eternal struggle, a man sometimes wants a quiet, serene life: so that no problems are disturbed, there were no worries so that one could live as in paradise without applying special efforts.
18. Speaking of beautiful carefree life, you can add that every man dreams of a chic machine. Chic - in his understanding, of course. To furrow on it the expanses of the universe and so that enviously turn around rivals, whistling: "Wow, what a steep car, lucky because someone!"
19. And, finally, the last on the list, but not the least in importance - is the desire to be loved! Men, no less than women, want to be loved, to be waited for and needed. And who, no matter how women, can help them in realizing their most important desire?