First , a man often refuses a second child because of possible financial difficulties. He has a fear that he will not be able to provide a second child. Even if at the moment he has a well-paid job, the man still doubts, but suddenly he will be dismissed or other difficulties will arise. In this case, before you persuade your husband to have a second child, you should think about earning the most. Otherwise, to solve this issue, if only one husband works in the family, it is very difficult. However, even a very good financial situation can be brought to a crisis, in which case the children will never be on time. Explain to your husband that you can save money on the second child, you left things from the first kid, and the desire to get a lot of wonderful things, but it turned out that you have not had any items that are not necessary for the baby yet.
The second reason for the unwillingness to have a child is the housing issue. Not every man is delighted with the idea that the bed will have to be divided into three, as the baby has nowhere to lay. And if this practice is also with the first-born, then the more husband will not agree to the second child. In this situation, it is necessary to explain to the husband that no one claims to its territory, but for children it will be possible to make a bunk bed. And if you wait for a solution to the housing problem, then you can remain with only one child. If the husband doubts the space for a growing family, you can give an argument that it becomes tight when children grow up, become schoolchildren, i.e. in 6 years, then during this time it will be possible to slowly solve the housing problem.
The third popular reason not to have a second child is the age of the man. At first he says that he is too young for the second child. I want to live for myself, see the world, make a career, it just went into growth. In his opinion, all this is difficult with one child, and with two it is simply impossible. In this case, the husband usually offers to wait with the second child for a while. This time can drag on, and the man then starts to dissuade himself from saying that he is too old. One child is and well. In this situation, you need a serious conversation with your husband, explain that if there is one child, of course, it's difficult to realize all your desires, so what's the difference, one child or two. While the spouses are young, there are forces to raise two children. And in old age, the more children, the more support will be for parents, younger children prolong the youth of their parents. In any case, if a man refers to his youth, be prepared for the fact that he will have to raise children alone, and the husband will be present side by side purely formally. Perhaps it's really better to wait for a man to "grow up," but this may not happen, so if you decide on a second child, be prepared for all family difficulties.
Or maybe this situation: the husband simply does not want a second child. He does not have any material or housing problems. He is quite enough for the happiness of one child. He perfectly remembers the birth of the firstborn. My wife almost always paid attention to the baby, my husband did not have time at all. He perfectly remembers quarrels with his wife, which occur in most couples with the birth of a child. In this situation, you will have to try to convince her husband to consent to a second child. Talk to him. Try to have your arguments built on logic, emotions - not the best assistants in this case. Try to give him the reasons for the practical reasons that two children have more benefits than one. Remind that you do not have to spend money on different toys, some things will remain from the first child. And the younger child is required to take in the same kindergarten as the elder, and without waiting.
The unwillingness to have a second child is often caused by a man's fear of self-doubt. Support him, say that he is the most wonderful husband in the world, that you love him very much and therefore you want another child from him. And that he will be just a wonderful father of two children.
If your husband is still against the birth of a second child, do not be discouraged. Remember the saying - the water grinds the stone, you can have this case. Have enough patience and slowly but surely move towards the goal. If you feel the need to become a mother once again, then you need to help your husband realize this, give him the opportunity to get used to the idea of becoming again a dad. With a wise women's approach, husbands become loyal with time, and soon they are waiting with the same impatience as their wives for "two strips". Many of them say that becoming a father for the second time is just happiness, they get great pleasure from communicating with the baby. But remember that in a family, in no case is fraudulent. Family is therefore called "family", that all important issues are solved by both spouses together, especially the question of the birth of the second child.
Even if you really want a second child, and the husband does not, you should not make the decision yourself, but simply put it before the fact of pregnancy. There will be no actions and various threats from your side, they can only exacerbate the situation. The best solution is to wait, but at the same time continue to gently persuade, accidentally mention how great it is to have two children, in general, direct the situation to the right direction for you.