What is important?
The most important thing in talking with yourself is sincerity. We often mislead other people, because sometimes lies are necessary. But as often we deceive ourselves. We attribute to ourselves those qualities that we do not possess, we calm the conscience with deceit, we influence our memory and distort some events, we convince ourselves of what has never happened. This makes us strongly mistaken at our own expense, sometimes in our eyes we look completely different from what we really are-better or worse, it does not matter.
Therefore, it is very important to be able to tell the truth to yourself, at least sometimes.
What to talk about?
About everything that excites you. About yourself and your thoughts or feelings, about problems and joys, about friends and work. Psychologists say that some things bother us because they are not very clear to us. It may be some problems or prospects that lack the details to make the picture clear. When we say different situations and our thoughts, we find ways to solve certain problems more easily.
Sometimes such a conversation can help get rid of grievances. It is enough to speak out alone with yourself, express everything that has boiled over the offender, and the need to start a quarrel will fall away by itself.
Not everyone can decide on such a conversation. If you for some reason can not force yourself to talk out loud, it will be enough to have a mental conversation. Talking to yourself is a very intimate affair, because we do not have a person closer than ourselves. The conversation can be replaced by correspondence. Another common method that psychologists often use is letters. You can write a letter to yourself or to someone. The idea is that we present our experiences and thoughts on paper, but the purpose of this correspondence is not to deliver the letter to the addressee, it is only aimed at understanding yourself.
How does it help?
Talking to oneself really helps to relieve psychological stress and find answers to many questions. This can help to get rid of uncertainty. For example, you feel that you lack some qualities, manners or habits to feel happy and be more harmonious. Imagine that you have these qualities and talk to yourself from the perspective of a person who is an improved version of yourself. Everything you say to yourself from this position will be perceived as the only true advice and can be of use.
Talking to oneself helps to learn how to build dialogues with others. You will learn to say what you think is right and right and will be able to present the answers of other people, and, therefore, in real life it will be easier to communicate.
Talking to yourself is not crazy, it's not necessary to shake the air for hours with your tirades. At our disposal are our thoughts, which help maintain a dialogue. If a person decides to have a frank conversation, he has a chance to understand his desires and what he really is. We often make mistakes, because we consider ourselves to be less strong or more self-confident. A frank conversation will help to reveal your true pluses and minuses, that's why this advice is often given by psychologists to those people who need to understand themselves.