However, most often we still wish for ourselves and our loved ones more everyday and, in something even abstract things: health, peace in the family, more money. We just wish, absolutely without thinking about how all this can be put into practice. And yet we can not do without our participation. So you can not only dream, but you also need to! But at the same time it is necessary to do at least scant steps to your dream. How to set a goal and achieve success, and will be discussed below.
The main thing is the setting of a clear goal
It is possible to customize yourself before important events and making important decisions in different ways. Some people telepathize themselves: "I am the winner!" And if luck really smiles at them suddenly, they think that they mentally caught her by the tail in advance. Well, if it did not work out, it means that they were not tuned well! Others, on the contrary, afraid of jinxing, repeat to themselves and all those around them that it is unlikely that the undertaking will succeed. But if it happens, it will be fun! However, American psychologists, who followed a group of students, came to the opposite conclusion: those who were ready to fail in the exams were not very happy about the unexpected victory. The negative emotions experienced by the "advance" continued to press on the heart with an unpleasant load.
How correctly to adjust on success? Sometimes it seems: if I do not pass the interview for this job - everything, life is not a success! If I do not take first place in the contest, I will only have to make myself a hara-kiri. And if today's pie fails, you will not have to unlock the door for guests - there will be absolutely nothing to treat them ... It would seem that it is at such moments that we are able to, no, we simply have to collect all our forces and successfully fulfill our plans. And what happens in practice? In reality, too much wanting something, we, as in an anecdote about Stirlitz, "are close to failure, more than ever." Too much energy goes to worry, too damaging is the fear of a possible mistake.
However, the chances of success for a person who is absolutely indifferent to his work are also small. Of course, this is more understandable and amenable to explanation - there is no excitement, interest, diligence ... Here the result does not come.
And who can easily set a goal and succeed? Who has a good chance of success? The one who wants to win, but within the real. The one who is not going to achieve it at any cost, going "by the corpses". The one who will not forget about respect for himself regardless of the outcome of his venture, although he would like to successfully complete the business, having received all the benefits associated with this. Such a psychological phenomenon is called in science the "optimum of motivation". In other words, with the help of moderate motivation, we can achieve the greatest result. This is worth remembering whenever you decide to take on any important business.
Stereotypes? Forget them!
You will not believe it, but the sandwich does not always fall with oil down. Sometimes (and to be precise, in about half the cases) they drop oil upwards! No mysticism, ordinary statistics and probability theory. You can check it yourself. And the conclusions will be useful to you and in the further life. The fact is that it is natural for mathematical laws to act not only with respect to falling sandwiches. The ratio of luck and failure in our daily life also occurs in approximately equal proportions. So if you are seriously lucky once, then you can take a chance on this wave to carry out some other important business, but in the future it will be reasonable to make a stop. Let the band of bad luck affect other, less significant events. It is better to get wet in the rain or lose a scarf, than to fail in a major transaction or to marry unsuccessfully. It should be remembered: in life there is no endless luck. The best and most effective way to achieve success is to set a goal and choose a good time to implement the plan.
Believe in yourself - everything will be fine!
There is an old oriental tale about a bunny who was afraid of everyone. The wizard took pity on the hare and turned it into a lion. But ... the newly-made king of beasts continued to hide from the fox and wolf and still felt small and vulnerable. Conclusion: sometimes the inner self-perception is much more important than objective reality. What is the benefit? The most direct. We can begin to act now, without waiting for a real onset of great success, as if he has been accompanying us for a long time. Do you want to become a person who has everything OK? Then stop walking with an eternally apologetic view, sigh sorrowfully and bend under the weight of problems. Wherever you go - to the office, to the parents' meeting or to the store for potatoes - appear in public with such a look as if you arrived yesterday from Concorde from Paris or received an Oscar for the main female role. The image and manners of a successful person tend to attract luck, like a magnet. And you will see - real joyful events will not keep you waiting!
Natural exchange: determine the measure of the fee
Deciding to embark on a path leading to success, one should never forget that this is a toll road. Decide for yourself what exactly and how much you are willing to exchange for portions of triumph. The size of these portions always corresponds to the costs. For example, it is impossible to make a dizzying career, sitting in the office from a call to a call and without a twinge of conscience taking hospital care of a child. And it's possible to be just a good specialist on such terms. You can not look stunning if you are not ready to get up early in the morning to make a hairdo and perfect make-up, in the evening, instead of reading your favorite book, make hand baths and paraffin masks, and endure torture with anti-cellulite massage and epilation on weekends. But you can find a low-cost image and maintain a pleasant appearance without much trouble. And so on. You need to determine the measure of the expected success, calculate the costs and start your climb to the top. And then you will succeed - and set goals and achieve success!
Let the secret become clear!
Play this game with your lover! Try to fulfill each other's secret desires. The game not only lifts the mood, but also strengthens the relationship.
• Let everyone independently write a list of what they would like to receive from their partner. Include in him everything that you would never have dared to ask for.
• Compare your lists by reading them out one at a time. If you feel uncomfortable, voicing your own desires, just exchange lists.
• After you have compared the lists, exchange with the partner your feelings and impressions, discuss the details. Assign the dates for the fulfillment of desires.
• Carrying out the desires of your own half, take it creatively, show ingenuity. Try to take your mind off all thoughts, just enjoy it!