Even in Freud's time, the manifestation of sexuality was under the most terrible ban. And although this was a natural necessity - even aloud to talk about it was strictly forbidden. Accordingly, due to the lack of normal physical health, mental problems emerged. The people demanded the emancipation of society, openness. Freud and began the revolution. Quite soon the issue of sex and the open manifestation of sexuality was resolved. The question is settled.
Approximately the same example, and the current advocates of sexual minorities. They protect them and demand a fair relationship. And all would be nothing if disorientation was considered a natural phenomenon. In fact, such a deviation is considered a disease. In turn, the defenders of all gays and lesbians give them the right to be psychologically unhealthy. And the percentage among others who become "such" is negligible. The rest had just an unfortunate experience of a standard kind of relationship. And the change of orientation in such cases is a convenient way to justify their failures in life and on a personal front. How do we still treat these people? And what is the essence of the problem?
About the problem
The revolution was accomplished, but the problem remained the same. Of course, everything is not as bad as before, but not so fun to close the issue under discussion.
Given that all this is now fairly openly spoken, still many people find this topic uncomfortable. Even those of us who adhere to the traditional orientation, it is rather difficult to openly say to learn about their sexual preferences.
Sex is considered to be an evil sinner, demonic and shameful. And it is considered so partly because in the modern world everything is permeated with religious morality. If you think objectively - sexuality is inherent in each of us. We all know how the light appears and everything would seem quite natural. But we are ashamed of our sexuality only because our sexual desires seem to us shameful and immoral.
Sex is one of the most important ways of self-assertion, and for oneself. We use it to get a comforting love or feel power. And when we get the desired effect with the help of sex, the feeling of our inferiority goes to the second plan. But once this method ceases to function, that's when our problems begin. The existing complexes and the negative experience of traditional sexuality all combine to lead us to the fact that we are changing the minus sign to a plus. There is a different kind of fetishism, and in severe cases we go to the side of same-sex love.
Realizing that the orientation has changed, a person finds in this an excuse and a sense of relief. He finds this explanation to his past sexual failures. He simply finds the answer to all questions - "I'm different."
Homophobia and homophilia
Society has always believed in certain ideals, established standards. And when there were those who did not fit into these standards, their society despised and hated them. Thus formed a variety of movements of protests and so on. The society sought to protect its ideas.
So it happens here. Our minds are laid that homosexual love is not normal, it's disgusting, such people should be despised. Society is horrified when he sees the "abnormal", who is not ashamed of his "abnormality", exposing it to the order.
So there are opponents of sexual minorities.
Those who advocate single-sex love, just want to express support and grudge. We all know how important is the feeling of empathy, compassion. And advocates of sexual minorities simply try to provide support, realizing that these people have problems that they hide behind their disorientation. Thus, those who are not against gay men, try to protect those whom society rejected.
In other words, the approval of a man's sexuality is a pretty good way to justify his own right to sexuality. Convincing others that their sexual deviations are normal, we give a green light to their sexual preferences. Convincing the normality of others, we at the same time convince ourselves of this.
There are still others - normal people, they are in harmony with themselves and they do not care about someone else's orientation. Well, yes, there are strange people, well, they lack something in life, they are simply enjoying what they are doing - so what. And he is not eager to defend or reject the disoriented. This is its normality.