In practice, the crisis will be known simply: "the husband has become unbearably boring" (if you are a wife) or "now I'm somehow sad" (if you are a husband). This can happen to any man, regardless of his degree of contentment with life or having a loving family and work. Methods of treatment vary, medicines are individual. However, let's try to build a therapeutic plan.
Clinical case
Many have husbands. Moderately beautiful, moderately hard-working, not too well loved and with their shortcomings: in general, such as they "hooked" you in their youth and dragged under the wreath. You live with them for a year or two or ten and suddenly realize that on the approach to the 40th anniversary, he has changed far from the best. Previously, he was responsible and initiative, and now he is in a state of chronic depression , he falls on the sofa after the slightest setbacks, constantly complains about his life and tries to refute the honorable status of the present stronger sex. The cause of mental relaxation is considered fatigue, sometimes he advises to leave him alone or scream at children and you.
However, this does not always continue. As soon as you wipe your tears, whisper to ask your mother on the phone if she did not rent out your room in the childhood home, go to bed, as the husband jumps up full of enthusiasm and strength. He is cheerful, active and full of grandiose plans: to become the bank's director, to build a dacha, to open a new Galaxy and go to the theater with the children. You, of course, rejoice: "Everything, passed the depression!" But no, the next day you again find the unfortunate spouse in the prostration on the couch and thoughts of the decay of being. Because his psyche is uncontrollable.
And crisis men always feel bad . This is one of the main symptoms of the mid-life crisis in men. At the same time, the paws ache and the tail falls off only in his imagination. "Crunch joints - most likely, arthritis; the head aches a bit - soon a stroke; my heart beats violently - my death will probably cause myocardial infarction, "your husband can often say. And he goes to doctors, peeps at Malakhov's show and buys vitamins in bright jars. Observing the similar behavior of your spouse, without exaggeration, you can say that healthy as a bull is cut off, afraid to grow old.
In addition, due to the fact that by the age of 30 many men no longer feel young, they start to look young . Therefore, if one day you understand that the spouse paints hair, bought a red sports car, inserted gold earrings in your ears, you can safely say "hello!" To a mid-life crisis. Men who are young also tend to strike hard nostalgia. They like to say how handsome and clever they were when they were young, and also to show a thirst for life, which is unnatural for their age - for example, a homemaker is going to hitchhike, a teetotaler drinks with friends in a gateway, and a monogamous and modest man looks after the secretary of the boss.
Surely, one of the most annoying manifestations in the middle age crisis in men is that crisis men are prone to betrayal . As they say, there is a zest in any woman, however, you will not eat one zest, of course, consider the crisis husbands and begin to "absorb" raisins with kilograms. After all, indeed, if you are young, then immediately in everything: update the wardrobe, house, car and wife. And yet, that's disgusting, the wife knows that he's "not that far away that he was before", while the young blonde, unheeded by intellect and extra clothes, will find him a full-fledged macho. Unfortunately, the husband's attempts to perform on the side rejuvenating procedures destroyed more than one marriage.