Any comments of the husband, sexual changes in the relationship (after all, after the birth of the child, sexual relations also change in many ways), nights without sleep, spent at a cot, constant fatigue and weight of responsibility for the child, and all the dissatisfaction with themselves, their appearance - all this is capable of plunging even a mentally resistant woman into a depressed state. And thoughts like "I do not like my husband", "he considers me unattractive," "to whom I need such" firmly and deeply sit in the brain of a young mother. And without good opposition, the result of such decadent moods can be the most deplorable. Depression leads to other diseases, not just mental disorders. And the well-known phrase "all diseases from nerves" is not a myth at all. So, what to do if you feel the symptoms of postpartum depression, lost your former confidence in your attractiveness, or just noticed that you became more painful about remarks about you?
First of all, do not ignore the problem, do not close your eyes to the changes that are taking place in you. Your experiences and fears will only accumulate in you, they do not disappear without a trace. Of course, you should not blow your left and right about your problems, but consult your close friends, go to a consultation with a psychologist - all this can be an outlet for you. Most people, in order to understand the reasons and the way out of the existing complex circumstances, just need to be listened to. Do not expect other solutions to your problems, all of this should be decided by you. Also do not be afraid to talk to your partner about what is happening to you, and what's hard for you. Mutual understanding and support from a close person will help you cope with the turmoil and solve serious problems.
An important step is also to accept yourself as you are. Postnatal changes in the female body do not add fragility and youthful immediacy to your image, and many women 9 months ago were formerly thin girls, it's hard to put up with the new way of nursing mother. However, youth will not last forever, all people grow old and change, but proper nutrition and moderate physical activity will help you to regain your attraction first of all in your eyes. It is not easy for a young mother to find time for rest, to restore strength. Try to find yourself an assistant, maybe it will be a grandmother or a nanny who will take care of herself with the baby. Do not forget, not only your child, but you also need your own care. Take time to rest, walk in the air, try not to take on too many worries, an unbearable burden will only worsen your condition. Also not recommended are severe physical exertion, which causes additional stress in the body. Consult with specialists about special postpartum exercises, usual exercises in the gym can only worsen the situation.
Many women experience sexual difficulties.
Childbirth is a difficult test in the physical sense, even giving birth through Caesarean section. From a medical point of view, the optimal period that is needed to restore a woman after childbirth is a month and a half. And do not be afraid, if you do not have the former desire and desire, this decline is fully justified on the physiological level. Firstly, your hormonal background changes and the woman after the delivery becomes more focused on her child, which is very natural. And cares about the offspring are being pushed into the background by sexual attraction, which sometimes becomes a cause of unrest for men. Sometimes they can manifest quite obvious jealousy to your common child, imagining that they have ceased to play a leading role in your life. As in most cases, it is appropriate to have a conversation and full trust in your life partner. Do not be afraid to talk about your feelings, do not be afraid of frankness.
The appearance of a new family member is important not only for you, but also for your companion, and frank conversation and mutual understanding will help create the atmosphere necessary for the child's harmonious development. Protect yourself from unpleasant conversations or noisy celebrations, motherhood is a special period, requiring peace and tranquility. Do not focus on the problems that bother you and the uncertainty about your own unattractiveness. And most importantly, never close your problems and do not hesitate to talk about them with family and friends. We hope that the phrase: "The husband after the birth of the child said that I am unattractive", you will not be touched.