What if my husband does not get out of the Internet?

After the wedding, each of the spouses, one way or another, brings something new to the newly-made family, in some cases even a secret from his mysterious past. As a rule, for some time it "does not give signs of life", however, as is known, the secret becomes obvious ...

This also applies to today's popular social networks, where young people prefer to communicate more than in the real world. Very often women observe the picture that the husband often corresponds with the young people, and can be, and not very young, but extremely insidious!


How much does this threaten marriage? Can such a virtual relationship lead to a divorce? A variety of feelings overwhelm you: anxiety, panic, uncertainty in the future ... In the head there are many questions and fleeting answers to them from "it is necessary to forbid her husband to correspond" to "and if I make it only worse?".


What is the reason for this behavior of a man? Some girls, getting married, "appropriating" a man for themselves, transforming the life of the chosen one into a nightmare, arranging a hyperopeak, while he has the right to personal life and personal opinion, which are closed from otherworldly eyes, including the wife's spouse. This is especially true of the male, for whom freedom is the main component of a happy and fulfilling marriage.


Even after the lovers have entered into an alliance, the man needs to feel that he is also attractive and in demand by the ladies - this is a kind of confirmation of his sexuality. Thus, virtual communication helps to cope with the assigned task. In the event that the husband has friends with the soc. networks are mostly girls - this indicates that he is not confident in himself.


Doubting by life nature, with the help of such "entertainment" raises self-esteem, feels "competitive" and incredibly charming eyes of his girlfriends. Therefore, it is better to support yourself and show sincerity to your beloved person than it will be done for you by any Internet vertigo.


By the way, note - there is a significant difference in who your man is communicating with - with random unfamiliar girls or with girls, whom he once associated romantic relationships with.


In the first case, being vigilant, still do not take the husband's communication to heart. What for?


A resident of Alaska divorced her husband, with whom she lived 8 years, due to the fact that he corresponded with former classmates, but especially the woman was shocked by the important fact that her husband sent messages to a working computer. While his later appearance, he explained the work to be an emergency. But, as he swore, "really" he did not change his wife, everything was limited to virtual flirting. But, alas, the woman remained adherent ...


If your MCH is active in contact with your ex-girlfriend or wife, and they are obviously not talking about kids, then you should be alert!


Irina, having been a legitimate wife for a week, left her husband because she found out: her husband has not yet stopped talking to his old friend, whom he met before her. The last straw of patience was that the young spouse has loved the former passion for a long time.


Also, this behavior of a man can be explained by the fact that the spouse does not want to "past". Namely, its former, because, as you know, there is no friendship between a woman and a man. Some of them hope for the continuation of the relationship.


How to be in such situation to the wife? After all, it is impossible to build a happy life on constant distrust and tormenting doubts. You must first learn to appreciate what was between you, those bright feelings that you, perhaps, are experiencing each other to this day. It is incredibly important and the way you learned about his relationship, "wool" the Internet or he himself told about it.


It is this indicator of what relations in your couple reign.
Probably, your fragile family is going through a crisis, a discord in the relationship. And if you think that your relationship has reached a climax, then the secret friends - a vivid confirmation of this.


Talk to your husband about it openly. Let you have no secrets. It is interesting that he himself will say about the current situation, what is his opinion on this matter? Require that he remove a stranger from the social. network, at least not far-sighted, because it will not return lost trust to your relationship. A spouse can be completely removed and completely immersed in a virtual world. In this situation, no matter how much a loving wife would like, the husband himself will make a choice, because he has the right to this exactly the same as to his own happiness.


Of course, you can be jealous infinitely, but you can just conclude that it was an invaluable experience in the relationship. And do not try to get revenge by buying another computer and spending a lot of time on dating sites - it's unlikely to lead to something good ...