First of all, sex - this is the bodily manifestation of feelings between people. But not everyone thinks so, putting relations first, and then sweet preludes. According to many men, it is passionate love - this is the main reason for sex. But many of us are absolutely not sure about this. After all, sex itself, even from a long time, is an instinct, a way of continuation of the clan and even a hunt for money. So what is this love after all? All in the same ancient times, a man possessed a woman, first of all, to prove his power and power, and only then he took care of multiplying the tribe's population. Here you have the male instincts, which have survived to this day. So why a man needs sex, and a woman's love and in what situation does anyone behave as they do?
According to psychologists, modern people do not already maintain their sexual relations as something personal and intimate. For many, both men and women, sex is needed, as a goal for self-expression, a source for getting rid of complexes or a way to solve their problems. But, no matter how it was, the female psychology differs noticeably from the male one and therefore it is much more pleasant for us to hear the cherished "I love you! "Than such a common" I want you! ". Here you have love and sex, which still vary considerably among themselves even on hearing.
So, let's all the same on some examples consider the main reasons why men need sex, and the female part of the population sensuality and romance.
Sex as a duty .
Most men think that a good wife is a wife who always cooks a delicious dinner, ironing her shirts and, as soon as her husband wishes, will engage in sex with him, even if he is fatigued. Well, if the wife does not meet the needs of the spouse, he will look to the side and go. For a woman, in marriage, the main attention, care for her and the feeling that she needs her husband, and only then and already a conjugal duty. Here is the first example of the majority of married couples who are so different from each other.
Self-assertion through sex .
Most often, it seems to men that it is through sex that they will be able to assert themselves and show their masculine strength and dignity. Any girl that a man pulls into bed, he perceives as a way to convince himself of his irresistibility. This brings the man a sense of calm and self-confidence. It is easier for a woman to gain a sense of confidence through the realization that she is loved and cherished. After all, a confident woman is a woman who has a strong man's shoulder, which you can rely on at any difficult moment.
Sex and loneliness .
Men, when a vacuum forms around them, considers sex to be the best salvation from loneliness, boring work or "empty house". Women, on the contrary, try to blame themselves for not being able to keep men near themselves. Because of this, we most often bury ourselves in ourselves and consider ourselves unworthy and simply unlucky. And that's all, because we need a man, but not as a sexual partner, but as a person who can prove the opposite and get rid of loneliness.
Achievements in bed are tantamount to sports .
Many men can characterize their sex life with three digits: for example, 16, 25, 88. In this list, 16 means the beginning of sexual experience, 25 is his real age, 88 is the number of sex partners.
Most often such individuals of the male are obsessed with the mania of "collecting" the number of girls with whom sex was. Although he can forget about his girlfriend in two days. Men think that the main thing for them is an excellent sexual form, the number of girls who have been in bed and the number of orgasms. Here they are, the indicators of this macho, for which every woman is perceived as a way to test, confirm their capabilities. Of course, women are also characterized by such a manifestation of their feminine nature. Fortunately, toli unfortunately, not all. Most likely, therefore, we are so wary of men.
This list of examples can be continued for a very long time, and rarely in which case the views of men and women may coincide. No, we certainly do not want to say that women absolutely do not need sex, and men love. Of course, everyone needs everything, but everywhere there must be a measure and a share of both passion and romance. Simply, each of the representatives of the opposite sex perceives sex and love in its own way, but, nevertheless, neither of them see love without sex, but simply sex - without love. Here you have an intricate pattern of relations between a man and a woman. Although in their subconsciousness, women can also easily combine these two concepts, putting sex first. It's just that our psychology presents the world around us in a slightly different way.
To say that treating sex as a means of being alone or as a method of self-affirmation deprives him of love coloring, no one is "one hundred percent" taken. But, nevertheless, in psychology there is such a thing as "personal norms". In other words, what is considered unacceptable for one person is considered quite normal for another. Here is the explanation of all our examples. But we should never forget that women need love and sex itself, like the merging of two loving bodies, which is accompanied by a feeling that fills the lovers whole and causes a feeling of complete happiness. For the sake of such moments it is worth living, loving and plunging into the flames of passion. It's so little what we want, women from men. We just need love and care, and then sex. Is it really so hard to guess. Good luck in love!