The phrase that "a woman does not owe anything to anyone" remains only a phrase, sounding more like sarcasm, and breaking down about the everyday life, where the woman in most cases must and must. Reinforcing this statement, I want to recall the "handbook of the hostess", released in the early 60-ies. Today, its reading in modern women will cause at least surprise, because in addition to the fact that there are advice on how to conduct life and life in general, almost on every page there is that "woman is obliged" and "should". The duties of the husband converge to a minimum, and concern more than something fundamental, than the simplicity of everyday life. And it is from such trifles that our life was created to a greater extent.
So let's consider, in fact, a woman should take care of her husband, or is it just a remnant of the stereotype of the past?
Woman as she is
Probably, science and technology is still very far from creating such an apparatus, which in its functionality could outperform a woman. We manage to do a thousand and one things per day, while finding time for everyone and everything, to teach, treat, prepare, clean, wash, listen, talk, work and worry for all those around us. We always complain about the lack of time for ourselves, but at the same time every minute we take something useful. For some reason, most children come to a light shock when they have to stay with their father for a couple of days, and in this situation, the pope is in no less shock. And what is most interesting, you can hear the same question from both sides: "What should I do with it?" Although if you think logically, you live together, and you are also brought up together, then why does this happen? The answer is simple: "This is my father (husband, man), and my mother (wife, woman) should ...". And we easily tolerate this, and sometimes we are even flattered by this dependence on us, but at times we want to change something, although such zeal goes quickly, turning into habitual everyday life and actions.
Considering the usual life of the average woman from start to finish, you can trace a lot of contradictions. On the one hand, at a young age, a girl from her mother hears instructions, the goal of which is the non-repetition of her own mistakes of youth, when she, under the clear guidance of her mother, "so that her husband does not run away," takes everything upon herself. At the same time, the child sees the whole family picture and absorbs the basics of behavior. Becoming older, the girl once gets freedom of choice and action, but for some reason returns to what was, without trying to change anything. So can we ourselves put all these worries, problems and household chores on ourselves simply because we like it? Or what then drives us when we call ourselves fragile creatures, and at the same time we put on our shoulders outrageous burdens. Let's consider the engines of our, sometimes even unnecessary, solicitude.
Love
As for caring for her husband, the woman is guided only by one factor - love. It is this bright feeling from the first days that forces us to take all possible responsibility for ourselves, trying to protect the dear and beloved of all difficulties. But often such zeal crosses all boundaries, and as a result, the husband in the house is more often found in the horizontal with the newspaper, or engaged in his personal affairs, and the wife is torn to all sides. Did we imagine family life and care for our husband? Few people will answer yes.
Another reason for this division of responsibilities is the idealization of family life. A pier, the wife should manage everything around the house and raise children, her husband to go to work, in the evening everyone is sure to gather for a hot dinner and everything is fine, bright and bright, like in old movies. But life is often more prosaic, and for such a family idyll you need to work hard. And for some reason, women want to take on this work, forgetting that the family consists of at least two people and the way of life should also be divided into two. But few people from the first days of marriage decided on such a distribution. So it turns out that the wife with the best intentions takes care of her husband. He, getting from the caring hands of his mother in the hands of his wife, does not need to do anything about the house, and the wife does not ask. That's how we live with a pink veil, and when it disappears, it's too late to do and change something.
Or maybe together?
Ideal for a happy family life - when not only the wife cares about her husband, but at the same time feels a reciprocal concern. It can manifest itself in mere trifles, but it is much easier for the wife to live. It is best to accustom your husband to the joint management of everyday life in the first years of marriage, because then the established rules are much more difficult to change.
Of course, that in life it happens the other way round, when the husband becomes an excellent owner in the house, and the wife at this time makes a career, or just does nothing. But this is more an exception than the rule. Usually, it's more common for women to worry about whether the husband ate what he is wearing, when he will be, how he is feeling, and at the same time wait for the return somewhere deep in his soul and continue to care, even in the absence of it.
Therefore, dear ladies, no matter how caring you were not by nature, no matter how you would not want to protect your own trouble from all domestic difficulties, think about who you need in the future, another child or spouse that you can reliably rely on in any case, to find support and help in it.
I presume that most, of course, would like to see the support in the wife, so do not waste time in vain for hundreds of excuses, why he could not. Remember, if you could, then why can not someone else? If you manage to be a wife, mother, employee, and mistress, you can safely demand that the spouse perform the same roles. Only then will your care be valued in dignity.