In secret to all the light
It is possible that at first you will be angry with the same person who "revealed to the world all in secret" your secret. And it was worth doing it? Think for yourself: how would you really have acted in such a situation? Surely it will be difficult for you to answer this question. After all, if you yourself could not save SVOYuTINA, how can you demand the same from another person? Yes, and in general, were you information so valuable and secret? By the way, and in what nasamom business secret of surprisingly fast on distribution of all secrets?
As a rule, trusting anyone in any kind of secret, we always risk that the vis-a-vis chosen by us will blab. And even more, according to psychologists, the openness of us sometimes pushes our subconscious desire to do so that our problem is recognized as much as possible people. Therefore, demanding from her friend "to keep everything in full secret," we still in most cases disingenuous.
First of all, beforehand
One of the best and proven ways to save a secret has long been considered a simple rule: "do not tell anyone anything." But we should also remember that by owning information alone, we ourselves take responsibility for all the consequences. Sometimes the burden simply chosen by us becomes unbearable. If, however, continue to continue in the same direction to drag alone "a box of secrets", then it is possible to "break" morally and earn a nervous breakdown.
What, after all, needs to be done to keep the nerves in good order and do not blurt out too much? In advance, one should consider what it is worth to tell. And, by the way, you do not need to load a close person than nipopadia.
Secret materials
"Skeleton in a family closet"
Virtually every family has its secrets, as it is said: "Another's family is a dark forest!" And as a rule, this mystery most often "defiles the race".
With whom to share? In this situation, it is best to share family secrets with those who are directly concerned. Especially if you decide to introduce a new person into the family, he should tell the family secrets. And even if it is very uncomfortable to be aware of that, it's better if the person you love finds out about it from you, rather than a shabby neighbor. By the way, with respect to the "dark" past, then, to a huge fortune, now few care about the purity of blood.
"Love does not live here anymore"
To admit to love is much easier, than to admit that it has passed. To keep the secret of feelings, we are forced by a number of reasons - fear of change, pity, greed, habit and many others. As a rule, everyone here can have their own reason.
With whom to share? Misc. think that he is not guessed at all. On the subconscious level, a man feels a "chill" towards his person. Some have the patience to endure these difficulties. But whatever it is, do not load friends on this topic - it will still come to him.
One tool is effective here: if you are sure that nothing will happen to this man, you must confess to him. He definitely has the right to know! And you have the right to respect for honesty!
"Work moment"
Are you going to quit or find out about the upcoming promotion, or are you working for good money with a "hack-work" for a competitor firm and do not sleep for hours, wanting to share with your colleague? Of course, everything here is its own, nobody will surrender it!
Still how will hand over! In any office there is the only one who considers it proper to report everything to the authorities. Even telling a colleague to master the dismissal, you can cause her to have a sense of duty as to whether she has found a replacement, and the firm has not suffered.
With whom to share? By a person who works with your company, but does not intersect with colleagues. He will keep everything in secret, it will be easier, because he does not communicate with those who may be interested in this information.
"And here is my ex ..."
What it is worth keeping silent about is an intimate experience. But this topic is the most discussed in the bedroom. The man does not start this conversation, fearing comparisons, so it's up to the woman.
With whom to share? Only not with a real partner. Wrap up memories, pour them on the pages of the forum. Write a letter and burn it or remember with your friends rough humor. Men, talking about the former, are taken seriously. Even if the partner has a broad outlook on life. The same applies to current likes: flirting through the Internet - keep everything to yourself!
"A friend threw a problem"
It's nice when friends trust you with their secrets. And sometimes this is something that it is better not to know, for example, treason. It's one thing if you're happy that she found someone better. It's another matter if her current one is your good friend, whose fate is not indifferent.
With whom to share? Here, of course, you decide. But psychologists do not recommend interfering without the need for vchuzhie relationship. A girlfriend or divorce or reconcile, and you will be a razluchnitsey. The bigger thing you can do is give a friend a tip, and the secret is not to take to heart!
Ambulance
Your girlfriend does not know how to "keep your mouth shut," and you accidentally told her secret.
Salvation: Asking never to tell you anything is useless, just try to shift her attention to something else.
You friend trusted the secret, and you, in addition to the will, told about the third person.
Salvation: Desperate to deny. It is necessary to beat everything so that the interlocutor began to doubt the authenticity. In extreme cases, just repent before a friend. But it is better to decide for yourself.
A friend tells about secrets that you do not want to know every day.
Salvation: Give her a voice recorder and a business card of a psychologist, otherwise you will become her permanent "drain cistern!".